“Real Housewives of O.C.” Gretchen Rossi’s Fiancee Passes Away

November 12, 2008 at 12:09 am 332 comments

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In “better late than never news,” the newest member of Bravo’s “The Real Housewives of Orange County” has lost her fiancee, Jeffrey Beitzel, to leukemia. Gretchen Rossi, who is thirty-years-old, attended the funeral services for her late fiancee on September 13. Beitzel was 54-years-old. He is survived by Rossi and his four children.

It is terribly sad that he passed away so suddenly. I have seen the commercials for the upcoming season and it appears that Rossi’s relationship with Beitzel is going to be a major part of the show. I also recall her saying in a clip that he was diagnosed with leukemia and that taking care of him was very difficult.

The fourth season of the show premieres on Bravo on November 25 at 10 p.m. ET/PT.

Update (2/18): The death of Jeffrey Beitzel has elicited a huge response from “Real Housewives” viewers.  I encourage you to post a comment, but I ask you to refrain from using foul and/or sexually explicit language in regard to Gretchen or any of the other housewives.  If I notice this kind of language, the comment will either be edited or deleted.  Thank you.


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  • 1. S & J Moss  |  November 19, 2008 at 2:40 am

    Just wanted to tell Gretchen “Hello” and send a BIG hug. Best of luck on the show. And wanted to say thank you for the love and happiness you gave Jeff.

  • 2. Holly and Dave  |  November 26, 2008 at 5:27 am

    HI! My husband Dave and I were just watching the first episode of Real housewives of orange county..and my husband is like I know him I have done work for him..Im sorry to hear that Jeff had passed we were actually invited to the funeral but didn’t make it..what a small world.

  • 3. ajie  |  November 27, 2008 at 4:43 am

    you got a nice blog!

  • 4. klamb1  |  November 27, 2008 at 2:16 pm

    Thank you!

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  • 6. Sarah  |  November 28, 2008 at 8:58 pm

    Such a golddigger, I hope she doesn’t get a cent and that the money goes to his children where it belongs.

  • 7. shani  |  November 28, 2008 at 10:22 pm

    That’s a sad situation. It was inevitable. He was a young man. My parents are 58 and 70 years old respectfully.

  • 8. Sarah  |  December 2, 2008 at 9:17 pm

    I don’t even think that the age factor is that big of a deal, he was not that much older than she was. She said he was “not her type,” yet he was her “prince charming.” I’m sure his money was what made him prince charming in her eyes. Plus, they became engaged while he was in the hospital. It’s not like this was a relationship built on true love when a horrible tragedy happened. Gretchen saw it for what it was- a chance to profit off of someone’s weaknesses.

  • 9. Kathy  |  December 3, 2008 at 3:47 pm

    It’s possible they could have been married and never disclosed it. His spoiled daughter shouldn’t get a dime. She clearly didn’t care that her father was dying. Gretchen should get everything and then divide it how she sees fit.

  • 10. ceecee30  |  December 5, 2008 at 2:15 am

    This is really sad. She’s probably my fave new Housewife. I really don’t like many of the others.

  • 11. Sandy  |  December 6, 2008 at 1:26 am

    I’m sure Gretchen would have been with Jeff if he had been a grocery manager or a plumber. Just like those blonde duh bunnies with Hugh Hefner. Now that’s TRUE LOVE!!!

  • 12. firedward  |  December 9, 2008 at 8:44 pm

    This is bad news, but considering people in the O.C do not live too long I’m not surprised about the news.

  • 13. Jenn from Indy  |  December 10, 2008 at 3:57 am

    This is in response to Sarah’s comments. How ignorant are you to believe a sensational TV show and judge people? You don’t even know this women! You don’t know her family. You don’t know Jeff’s family. How dare you make such insensitive comments over the death of any person. It was this couple’s choice to be together. Live with it It has NOTHING to do with you. To put such negative vibes into the universe is such a waste of thought and time. What good comes out of it?

    Did it make you feel better to insult someone you don’t know?
    Jeff is/was a very smart successful man who made a name for himself. I’m sure he can make his own decisions just fine with out you. If this included Gretchen in his life and he was happy then so be it. He can spend his money, it’s his, he made it.

    You are so tacky and insecure, Sarah. Judge your own life and be a better human being. Keep your mouth shut and concentrate on your own issues. You are in no place to judge these people. Seriously.

  • 14. chris  |  December 10, 2008 at 6:08 am

    oh sandy, you’re so ridiculously naive.

  • 15. Lou  |  December 10, 2008 at 1:57 pm

    What’s the difference between Gretchen and a hooker? Seriously, I don’t understand how people like her can live with themselves. As far as Jeff is concerned, it’s horrible what happened to him but come on……..did he think she loved him for his looks?

  • 17. Grl28  |  December 10, 2008 at 10:00 pm

    Sara, you are the biggest moron. Gretchen is not a golddigger! How dare you interpret things in such a disgusting way and make cruel remarks about something you know nothing about. I have dated someone 27 years my senior and loved him to peices. You can tell Gretchen was very much in love with her Fiance. If she didnt love him, she would have been pushing him to marry her prior to his death. You are a sick and disgusting human being to berate someone after they lose a loved one. Get Help!

  • 18. Brooklyn  |  December 11, 2008 at 2:47 am

    i think shes a gold digger too she probably didnt even go to the funeral…….

  • 19. Ed  |  December 11, 2008 at 5:43 pm

    gold digger, I wish her well and her husband well, and peace to everyone, well peace to the man’s first wife anyways. Hopefully his kids get all the money not her. Who cares about gold digging fake people in the O.C. I guess some people because the show is on the air. Biggest waste of time and energy in the history of Hollywood if you ask me.

  • 20. JK  |  December 11, 2008 at 9:26 pm

    Wow, he looked a lot older than 54. I thought he was 70 or something. Poor guy must have aged a lot while being so sick. 24 years isn’t much. I’m sure she was with him because she found him pleasant and could take care of her financially. That’s not such a bad reason to be together, as long as she was kind to him. It sounds like his last, hardest months, she was the one who was there for him. He was no fool. I’m sure he knew the score. And yet they seemed happy together. So as long as both their needs were met, sounds fine by me. So sad that he passed away…

  • 21. GretchtheWretch  |  December 11, 2008 at 10:32 pm

    What a gold digger. You don’t have to marry someone to be a gold digger. She spent his money just fine without marrying him. ‘Oh look she is so so considerate she didn’t even marry him because she didn’t want to be perceived as a gold digger’ meanwhile he buys her a $65k ring. Nah that’s not gold digging! Neither is the $3.2mil house! She’s soooooo honorable!

  • 22. Waldo  |  December 16, 2008 at 7:42 pm

    Jeffrey Beitzel was an unfaithful, dishonest, insincere, self-promoting, jerk. Throughout his life he used, betrayed, or cheated anyone who fell for his BS. The world is a better place without him. Gretchen will never know what she has been spared.

  • 23. jayne  |  December 17, 2008 at 12:29 pm

    Waldo, do spill the beans!! Did you know Jeffrey?

  • 24. Terri  |  December 17, 2008 at 8:45 pm

    My heart goes out to Gretchen. I met my true love &, after 5 yrs., lost him at the age of 43 to a heart attack. I was a 31 yr. old widow. I can identify with Gretchen because we both have made our way in the world & have become stronger women from the experiences that life has brought us. It is not for anyone to judge the reasons why we do what we do. The love & devotion that she & Jeff had for each other became more evident with each episode. The reasons for his providing her with a lavish lifestyle apparently started prior to the onset of his illness. His appreciation for her loyalty, love & concern throughout his illness was shown by giving her whatever he could to show that appreciation. And, although I don’t & will never know either Gretchen or Jeff & the depth of their characters, I know that life is fleeting & unpredictable & we should be kind & loving to each other & appreciate the time we have with our precious families & loved ones. I know that there are people who will be very critical & cynical of this message but that’s ok. I hope that someday & in someway their hearts will be turned by someone or something. Again, my deepest sympathy to Gretchen for her loss. I remember both you & Jeff in my prayers & hope the memories of your time together will bring you peace & comfort. Until you’ve walked in our shoes, please don’t judge us. God bless…

  • 25. NOT GOD DONT JUDGE  |  December 17, 2008 at 11:31 pm


  • 26. NOT GOD DONT JUDGE  |  December 17, 2008 at 11:39 pm


  • 27. Angus  |  December 18, 2008 at 9:31 pm

    My guess is the only people on here defending Gretchen are other gold diggers.
    He was old, sick and divorced like 5 times so he was probably not a very nice person.
    He would buy her a $100,000 ring but argue with his blood about a $20,000 car?
    I am really sure that it is every young hot woman’s dream a much older and very sick multiple divorced man.

  • 28. Knows the score  |  December 21, 2008 at 11:48 am

    Jeff was with Gretchen because he wanted to be. He wanted to be with her. If he didn’t, he would have kicked her out. He wanted her for her youth and beauty and she wanted him for the lifestyle he could give her, a very common trade off. They clearly had genuine affection between them and she did a lot to make his life easier in his final illness.

    When someone asked Melania Trump is she would have married Donald if he was poor, she said “Do you think he would have married me if I didn’t look like this?”

  • 29. Janice  |  December 21, 2008 at 10:01 pm

    Even though she may have been initially attracted to his money (who knows what happened after their relationship developed), he probably was initially attracted to her because of her looks and youth. Had she not looked the way she did he would not have wanted to be with her either. So really they both used each other. While this is not a great relationship, she was not the only one at fault so calling her a gold digger is missing the other half of this dysfunctional relationship.

  • 30. Leslie  |  December 23, 2008 at 11:38 pm

    For all of you who want to call her a golddigger maybe you should watch the show, he says he wants to take care of her. Okay so that means he liked doing all those things for her if she was such a goldigger she would have married him before he died, gosh have some respect for the guy!!!!!!! Not to mention her!!!!!

  • 31. shorty1738  |  December 24, 2008 at 8:35 am

    those who support Gretchen are apparently gold diggers who are getting flashbacks for their guilt. Whoever watched the show should know that Gretchen verbally stated on live t.v. ” I am not physically attracted to Jeffrey but he is a kind person.” Anyone with a fucking brain would NOT follow through with an engagement if they are not attracted to that invididual. She made it profoundly clear when she was partying with her family while Jeffrey was in the ICU in the hospital that she did not love him. If anyone of you know anyone receiving therapy from Lukemia know that chances of living are very SHORT! she should have wait to party afterwards not during!!

  • 32. Linda  |  December 26, 2008 at 1:36 am

    I think she is a gold digger. She admitted that she wasn’t attracted to him. If he didn’t have money she wouldn’t have even looked at him twice. And if she was truely worried about his health why was she even on the show? When Lori started to have serious problems with her son she stopped doing the show to be with her family. Gretchen fake cries in the camera but, she wasn’t with Jeff most of the time. Like Tamra said…” If my husband was in the hospital I wouldn’t be on vacation.” Gretchen spent most of her time going to spas, lunch, partying with friends and doing the show. I heard that his kids didn’t like her at all and didn’t want him to marry her. Did you see how she snapped at his 16 year old daughter when she questioned why she didn’t work? Not a good way to act to a daughter that is hurting about her father dying. She loves attention and the camera..and Jeffs money. I hope his children got his money and not Gretchen. I still think Tamra is the hottest housewive. Gretchen is a gold digger..period.

  • 33. cm  |  December 28, 2008 at 9:06 pm

    i’m sad for gretchen. i see a lot of ‘gold digger’ comments but no one on here can know that for sure. of course people are going to say that because of the age difference, which really wasn’t that huge if you ask me. judge if you will be the fact is someone has died, it’s sad and whether gretchen was with him for the money or not, this must be hard on her. i’m sure she cared about him a lot.

  • 34. n2ink  |  December 29, 2008 at 1:47 am

    So what if Gretchen was a golddigger….I don’t think she was, but Jeff loved her and she stuck by him and she loved him……I think it’s sad that he passed away and now the show is airing with him in it……….he went to his grave in love with her and she loved him……that’s all that matters.
    Why do you people have to be so ugly and hurtful? IT’S REALITY TV……..for Pete’s sake!!

  • 35. lisa  |  December 30, 2008 at 12:42 am

    gretchen is truly a disgusting human being. why on earth would someone laugh hysterically while ON VACATION while her husband was in the hospital with cancer. gross, disgusting world.

  • 36. haha  |  December 31, 2008 at 5:46 am

    (coming from a 21 year old) – What’s sad is that all of you adults seem to think this is such a big deal– there are way more important issues than “gold-digging” on the show. i.e.: SPOILING THEIR CHILDREN. Heaven forbid I know anyone that grows up in a lifestyle like that. All of those women are pathetic and I hope they learn to actually ‘live’ someday. As should you all.

  • 37. lolo72  |  December 31, 2008 at 3:18 pm

    So sorry for his passing…I like Gretchen’s “Character” but I have to agree with some of the others…Would she have even talked to him if he were a teacher, policeman etc. She was attracted to his $ and then maybe feelings did evolve. Even though I like her, she should not be on the show, she is NOT a housewife, just like Jo wasn’t.

  • 38. Tina  |  December 31, 2008 at 4:23 pm

    I just wanted to pass on my deepest sympathies to Gretchen and Jeff’s children. I am so sorry to hear of his passing. She has been a angel by his side no matter what any one thinks or say’s about her.
    To care for a terminally ill person is so much work, and any one will tell you it’s vital that the caregiver also take care of themselves too, to give so freely also demands a true balance in that effort. And I am sure he would of wanted you to take time for yourself too.
    I wish you much peace, and time to heal.


  • 39. Lisa  |  December 31, 2008 at 7:48 pm

    Gretchen may be a nice person, but if I knew my loved one was dying, I would be a mess. I would be afraid to leave the hospital. I would not think a second about parties or vacations. Vacations and parties can wait; a dying loved one cannot!!

  • 40. bob  |  January 1, 2009 at 8:24 pm

    WOW, when I saw Gretchen in that striped black and white bikini, I would have told Jeff she was worth every dime. At age 54, I am sure he knew he wasn’t in her league, but why should he care he was still having her. Other than her slight overbite, she looks absolutely perfect. I’d wouldn’t mind being next, heck I’m wealthy and 61. SSSSHHH, DON’T TELL MY 46 YEAR OLD WIFE.

  • 41. Kate  |  January 2, 2009 at 3:30 am

    My heart goes out to Gretchen and Jeff’s children as well..
    In my opinion, to take care of a dying man [NO matter how well off he may be financially] says true love and compassion.
    And if it was for money, that’s their business. Some people should be mature and realize that not every woman dating or married to someone older is in it for financial benefits. And Waldo [comment #22] how do you know?
    Sure, everyone’s entitled to their opinion but there is a difference between opinion and slander. Jeff has passed away, how cowardly to make assumptions and sling sh*t now.
    I wish Gretchen the best, I hope she is comforted during her time of grief.

  • 42. Kim  |  January 3, 2009 at 7:44 am

    I can’t figure out why they put Gretchen on this show!
    She seems very immature for her age, and I read her blog and she mentions her faith and God alot, but also can’t wait to get her clothes off in certain episodes. She is constantly saying “lets get naked!” If they don’t get her off the show I’m not watching anymore. She and that new girl with bratty teenage daughters need to leave.

  • 43. Mary  |  January 3, 2009 at 9:46 pm

    Gretchen is a beautiful person inside and out. I spent 7 years with someone 23 years my senior. I understand the type of love she had for Jeff. The people who have negitive comments about someone they have never even spoken with are judgmental and ignorant.
    I hope Jeff took good care of her in his will. Lord knows the things she endured for him were not easy.

    Take care of yourself Gretchen. Your not only the hottest housewife, you are pretty funny too:)

  • 44. Sasha  |  January 4, 2009 at 5:02 am

    Best of wishes to Gretchen! I hope that you keep in mind when times get tough that he is in a far better place, consider him your guardian angel.

  • 45. Rob  |  January 4, 2009 at 10:07 pm

    Truth be told when she spoke with Jeff’s daughter & said that taking care of sick Jeff was “a job. ”

    Yeah…….thats real love.

  • 46. Kim  |  January 5, 2009 at 7:49 am

    I can’t believe the people that are for Gretchen. She is nothing but a gold digger. Her little baby voice always comes out when she gets some bling from poor Jeff, (R.I.P.) And then she was off partying at the lake, the burlesque party, and spending his money on expensive dresses at his expense, but had the nerve to call his daughter out on wanting a $20,000 car (which is nothing for him apparently) good grief it’s his own daughter. She acts as though the money will be gone before she can get her hands on it. And she got engaged while he was in the hospital, probably when they got the news he had cancer, hoping he would marry her quick enough before he died. I don’t understand why they have her on the show, she’s not a housewife of orange county. And as for Lynn, her daughter’s make me sick. Lynn, what an example you are. So suprised that your daughter’s boyfriend said she dresses like a prostitute, and you were shocked because it was your dress. Hello! Lynn sorry honey but you look like 9 miles of bad road, with your bad hay hair and bad boob job. Let your daughters have their lives with out you trying to compete with them on who looks better in a size 1. Please get over yourself!
    Lauri and George please come back!!!!!!!!

  • 47. Kim  |  January 5, 2009 at 7:34 pm

    My sympathy goes out to you and Jeff’s family. May God bless all of you.

  • 48. The Sun  |  January 5, 2009 at 11:34 pm

    I wish I was only as hot as Gretchen thinks she is.

  • 49. Mr. Rick  |  January 5, 2009 at 11:50 pm


    Tell it like it is.

  • 50. Just wondering...  |  January 6, 2009 at 3:36 pm

    Hi! I was just wandering if anyone knows what brand Gretchen’s striped bikini is???

  • 51. Waldo  |  January 6, 2009 at 4:53 pm

    “Waldo, do spill the beans!! Did you know Jeffrey?”


    I am not an X lover or X business associate. I knew Jeff, I saw things he did, and I know of others. I understand some of what made him tick but none of it excuses his conduct. It is hard not to be judgmental, especially when I see people saying what a great guy he was and feeling sorry for him. I had little respect for him but I didn’t hate him. Jeff was intelligent and charming, and he often paid the tab. None of those things mean he was a good person. Did Jeff care about Gretchen or was it all about him being seen with his latest girl toy? He was married five times. Did he have more bad luck than most or does that tell you something about Jeff? You can find posts on the internet about Jeff cheating people and not paying employees. Yes, you can find plenty of trash on the internet. In this case it is just happens to be the tip of the iceberg. I read that Jeff would “give you the shirt off of his back”. Jeff tossed a lot of money around to impress people and make himself feel important. It was all about Jeff. For him to end up on a show featuring mostly superficial, self-centered *&$%#@! is no accident, he fits in well. I mostly feel bad for the kids he conceived and then left behind. I hope they have his intellect and allure, but learned from observing him how not to be. Jeff was a player. He deceived people, made promises he had no intention of keeping, was unfaithful to those who trusted him, and cared only about himself. It might be disrespectful to talk badly about someone who has died. I didn’t make Jeff the person he chose to be.

  • 52. Tiffany  |  January 6, 2009 at 6:06 pm

    I like what #46 said about Lynn! Amen to that! She is by far the most annoying housewife!
    My favorite is still Jeana! (since Lauri left!)

  • 53. dont judge what you dont know  |  January 6, 2009 at 6:32 pm

    For those of you Judging..
    You are all complete morons and retarded. If you even watched the show, Jeff wanted Gretchen to take her mind off of worrying about him. Besides that she deserved taking a break, she took care of him, its not easy taking care of your loved one and watching them die.
    And what moron believes there isn’t more to the story, its television the cut out so much, noone seen all of her heartache, the producers were portraying her to be this party animal while he was in the hospital, and only included showing her cry once. Its all for ratings. The producers are the dirt bags.

    After losing my loved one without marrying him for the same reason other dumb morons believed and whispered, I can sympathize.

    Gretchen, You are a beautiful person. Screw all the naysayers keep your head up, stay true to who you are, you have an amazing personality that most people are just jealous of. He will forever be in your heart. When you are ready to move on, don’t listen to the even more awful things that people will say about you. Just remember that he would want you to be HAPPY.

    Those who Judge will be judged on judgment day!

  • 54. Chris  |  January 7, 2009 at 5:00 am

    First, I did not know until today that Jeff passed away. I was watching the show tonight wondering if he was going to survive. I would like to tell everyone who was in his life….. the pain will get better in time. The point is people who loved him no longer have him around. Regardless, if Gretchen is a gold digger or not they appeared to love one another and for the time they were able to share that is all that mattered. It’s not a good thing to judge for we all will be judged at the end. He may have done some things in the past, hurt people, etc. or whatever the case maybe but it’s not for use to put him on blast. No one is perfect. She may have been 30 and he 54..the two of them only know what they really shared.

    Gretchen…honey you hold your head high. You have the ability to become anything you want to be. Prove everyone wrong. You will be blessed for sticking by Jeff’s side through his illness. Be sure to stay in contact with his children. The death is still fresh but years down the road it would be nice still have some type of relationship with his kids.

    You will find love again but he will always have a special place in your heart. You are beautiful but remember beauty fades but intelligence does not. Prove everyone wrong!!

    Take Care!!!

  • 55. KMacRN  |  January 7, 2009 at 5:34 am

    Okay, I’m gonna be straight up here. I am jealous of her. I mean, look at her. She’s frickin hot, she’s got an awesome body, she hooked herself a very successful man who loved to spoil her, she could pretty much walk around in a potato sack and make it look good. Actually, I take that back, I am not jealous of her, I WAS jealous of her. Obviously none of us knows what her financial situation is now (after his passing). I’m sure, knowing what he was facing, if he did truly care for her, he made mention of her in his will. And let’s face it, she did take care of him. I take care of people I don’t know for 12 hours a day and it’s exhausting, so I can’t imagine what it would be like to take care of a loved one with a terminal illness when you don’t have a medical background. The bottom line is that none of us know what their life together was REALLY like, and most of the time we are getting 1 hour of TV per every 17 hours of actual footage shot for reality shows. So the “powers that be” can certainly make things look how they want them to look. However, I am quite curious about next weeks episode, because really, how can they “edit” someone licking a spoon very slowly and seductively while looking into the eyes of the son of one of their friends? She is definitely a sexy girl but there are some things that post-production can’t fake . Not judging her feelings for Jeff but like Tamra said, if my husband were in the hospital, I would not be on vacation. A day at home, taking a break since the kids are in town, is one thing, half naked on a boat is another. Not saying she didn’t care about him, but some poor choices in behavior and what was filmed. I really feel like the poor man was disrespected by some of her actions.
    Back to my original statement…let’s get real ladies…we’re just jealous! LOL

  • 56. Why Do We Watch?  |  January 7, 2009 at 6:46 am

    I have this feeling if they were worried about appearances they wouldn’t splash their families dirt for all of bravo to see.
    Gretchen is a world better than Lynn’s Whiner Pig daughter. Little piggy squeals of “me me me” and “now now now” Some of these sad little girls should make us all feel better about judgment day!
    I hope the gates on their community only swing one way and they keep them in their cages!

    Lets all stop watching and get real actors back to work!!!!

  • 57. Lee  |  January 7, 2009 at 10:00 am

    She is what she is. And, I knew them both. Jeff was
    NOT a good person, in life and in business. One last thing. Gretchen was simply eye candy. She never shared his bed. She told him several times that she would not have sex with him. He just wanted some dip on his arm.. One last thing, she was not even there when he passed. She was shopping.

  • 58. Keedy  |  January 8, 2009 at 6:39 am

    I have been a caretaker for someone I loved with a terminal illness. It is a 24/7 job that drains and sucks the life out of you. It is hard to watch the person you care for getting weaker and weaker. When she went to Bass Lake with her family, I completely understood why she went. You do need to get away and be with healthy people every once in a while to keep that smile on your face and the hope in your heart. Otherwise you die right along with the person you are tending.

    I saw the teaser for next week’s episode, though, and I’m not sure there’s any excuse for getting tequila’d up and hot and heavy with Tamra’s son.

    Drunk or not, that’s just bad behavior.

    I do wonder if she was in the will or not. Wonder if we’ll find out.

  • 59. LALisa  |  January 8, 2009 at 7:13 pm

    Does it matter why two people are together as long as they make each other happy? Plenty of young good looking women look for older men with money, and plenty of older men with money look for young good looking women. Both of them understand what the other one is interested in. Both parties are satisfied with the arrangement. People seem to forget that “gold-digging” is a two-way street, and the “gold mine” knows full well what is going on unless he’s completely stupid. What counts is being happy, and if that means being in something other than a “traditional” marriage, half of which end in divorce, then more power to you.

  • 60. deena  |  January 9, 2009 at 4:38 am

    Comment number 59- I couldn’t agree more! That’s exactly how I feel. I personally like Gretchen. I think she was exactly what he needed in that phase of his life. He wasn’t so feeble that he didn’t know what the deal was. Come on! They put a smile on one and others face- isn’t that all that matters?

  • 61. Bummed  |  January 9, 2009 at 2:12 pm

    It’s hard to lose a loved one. We’re sorry for your loss.

    Greaving is natural and if you find yourself in need of a shoulder to lean on, my number is…

  • 62. nrg  |  January 9, 2009 at 3:47 pm

    Please dont judge Gretchen. I grew up with her at Village Christian and the girl doesnt have a mean bone in her body. VC is a prestigious school in L.A. I havent watched the shows because I live in Germany, but whatever goes on with the shows, I know Hollywood. They paint what they want. She isnt a gold digger. She is just beautiful, rich, and compassionate. It’s hard to relate to that, I understand. So, dont judge.

  • 63. Lilly  |  January 9, 2009 at 10:12 pm

    You people who feel sorry for Gretchen are pathetic. I feel sorry for Jeffrey. She is a fake and a phony and will hopefully learn what life is really all about one of these days. I am appalled at her trampish behavior and just her overall gold-digging attitude! I can’t stand her – she needs to get a clue. I pray Jeffrey was smart enough to leave his money to his children.

  • 64. Kim  |  January 10, 2009 at 2:22 am

    #57 you sound like you know Gretchen pretty well to say she didn’t go to the funeral, instead she was out shopping. Sounds like she learned some lessons from Anna Nicole Smith.
    Looking at the trailer from next week’s show, this girl is nothing but a tease and ladies on the OC, better watch their husbands!

  • 65. Kim  |  January 10, 2009 at 2:34 am

    Oh! One more thing, those who write crap about “let’s not judge, less be judged, people this is a tv show that all of us poor bored
    souls watch, it’s just a show.

  • 66. Senserdog  |  January 10, 2009 at 12:37 pm

    (Jenn from Indy&hellip)~~~ since when or whom made you in charge.
    From my understanding it says leave a comment and that’s what Sarah and the rest have done. It’s you who doesn’t know either one and only basing your opinion on a TV Show.

    None of you knew Jeffrey Beitzel.
    Beitzel was more concern that his company received a tax break than the employees having health insurance etc.

    And to say that because a child is spoiled she should get none of her fathers money, says a lot about the person you are.
    The father wishes his child to live a better life, but if it’s up to you this child would’ve nothing, I do hope your not a mother for the sake of any child.
    You know who you are.

    Many here can’t differentiate the difference between reality and a TV Show. These people are getting paid, everything is paid for have you lost your minds.

    (Terri&hellip I was a 31 yr. old widow. I can identify with Gretchen ) ~~Old at 31?, this TV Show must be your life, with all do respect, you should get consoling.
    Many are turning a TV Show into your own reality and that’s dangerous.
    (Angus&hellip He would buy her a $100,000 ring but argue with his blood about a $20,000 car?)~~
    One must understand that a father is not refusing his children money, but a child must learn early that money is earn and by dropping money into there hands will only spoil them and life can be tough for them later. And it was $65,000 for 4.7K very cheap. Clarity must have been bad for a 4.7K to have cost so little.

    (29.Janice&hellip)~~ excellent point.

    (35. lisa&hellip)~~ of course Dr.Lisa.
    Lisa, why would anyone do this or that. It’s a fact many laugh hysterically when their nervous on the other hand I understand your point but we can’t decern why people do what they do.

    (36. haha&hellip)~~ What an example, I believe it has been said perfectly, but don’t tell them or they will curse you.

    (38. Tina&hellip To care for a terminally ill person is so much work)~~~Gretchen a TV Show Character has not cared for anyone (Beitzel) just because someone says they have done something doesn’t make it so, have you lost your mind it’s a TV Show.

    (39. Lisa&hellip)~~Same Dr. Lisa? how well have we done..

    (40. bob&hellip) ~~~Your a “PIG”.(heck I’m wealthy),
    let me inform you Bob, your either Rich or not.
    The rich don’t say wealthy, they say “Rich” so keep heading to the corner for muck.

    (53. dont judge what you dont &hellip)~~Complete a sentence for once.(Screw all the naysayers(sic) keep your head up)~~Screw? your mouth is as filthy as your mind. You’re one and all among these who judge and to condemn them is to condemn yourself.

    Happy New Year

  • 67. SHAWN  |  January 11, 2009 at 2:16 am



  • 68. SCANDAL2NY  |  January 11, 2009 at 6:59 am


  • 69. SCANDAL2NY  |  January 11, 2009 at 7:01 am

    p..s i love gretchen hehe

  • 70. c. campagna  |  January 11, 2009 at 8:51 am

    I try not to judge however, my husband past away 4 months ago from cancer and I don’t care what the age difference is the fact that she went on a 4th of July vacation while he was in the icu was heartbreaking to me. I moved into the hospital the last month of his life not knowing if he was ever going to make it home or not and I thank god for that time with him. She is selfish and imature to say the lest. Her whiny attitude when she spoke with him over the phone on the one episode wondering why he wasn’t feeling good in icu was so pathetic. I hope she lives with the guilt for the rest of her life. I’m sure he probably felt abandoned by her the last few months of his life. Shame on her. She deserves nothing. Yes I’m bitter, she’s the kind of person that deserves nothing but heartache.

  • 71. Rachel B.  |  January 11, 2009 at 3:33 pm

    For all of you touched by Jeff and his story please visit my website. I’m training to participate in the New Jersey Marathon as a member of The Leukemia & Lymphoma Society’s (LLS) Team In Training. All of us on Team In Training are raising funds to help stop leukemia, lymphoma, Hodgkin lymphoma and myeloma from taking more lives. I am completing this event in honor of all individuals who are battling/have battled blood cancers. These people are the real heroes on our team, and we need your support to cross the ultimate finish line – a cure!

  • 72. Kellie  |  January 11, 2009 at 9:41 pm

    They both used each other. They both were “in” on that situation. Why is that a bad thing?

  • 73. Kylie Moadine  |  January 11, 2009 at 11:11 pm

    I am 30 also, and my boyfriend had 3 strokes, so I know what it’s like to take care of someone who is weaker then me. He was paralyzed for six months, and now has seizures. He is only 33 and was perfectly healthy before them! I could’ve left him, but I didn’t. I really think, that would have killed him. I said he is now my ex. He wanted me to go, because he didn’t want me to suffer anymore. He said, “You deserve better.” Your thinking yeah your a lying heartless witch. I don’t care, I don’t wanna lose him, so kiss my butt and all my love to you Gretchen.
    You go girl, and screw his spoiled cold heartless daughter.

  • 74. rdcarmi  |  January 12, 2009 at 3:30 am

    I’ve watched every show with Gretchen even an HDTV show with them remodelling. I think Jeff and Gretchen were getting exactly what they both needed and wanted out of the relationship, and there’s nothing wrong with that. Its their life and who are we to judge. Jeff wanted a gorgeous woman with him, and she loved the glam. It appeared as if she was very kind and loving toward him. I’m sure he left this world more happy than sad because of her.

  • 75. Lee  |  January 13, 2009 at 4:58 am

    Bottom line people. It IS a tv show. And, Jeff and Gretchen both
    knew what they were getting into. Jeff thought it would keep her busy and not focus on his leukemia so much. Which it did. He was looking out for her in that way. She is very young and selfish.
    And, yes she was not in ICU with him. It is sad all the way around.
    His children are young and DO have the support of their Mothers.
    And, they DID get Jeff’s money and debt. Gretchen simply got her face on a TV show looking immature and self-rewarding. She has already moved on…. New man..new money… But, boy people will NOT forget how they met this “lady”.

  • 76. Veronica  |  January 13, 2009 at 8:24 pm

    Do you think Gretchen will be on the next season of RHOC? I hope so, she is my favorite.

  • 77. Jorlando  |  January 13, 2009 at 8:36 pm

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  • 78. meredith  |  January 14, 2009 at 4:32 am

    Are you kidding me?!!? I don’t know Jeff, but I pray that he is in a better place. I do not feel any sympathy for Gretchen. I have watched the show and she shows no sorrow towards anything. If a family, husband or a friend were to be in that situation I know I could never be out drinking a having a good time. In the past 2 years I have had a friend die and 3 relatives and I can not recall ever trying to go out and have fun. If anything I went to church and prayed or sat by there side. I can’t comprehend people like Gretchen. I think she is sick and needs help. I bet she has a boyfriend now, and he probably has A LOT of MONEY, that is if she didn’t get all of Jeff’s money.

  • 79. Anonymous  |  January 14, 2009 at 4:57 am

    I love Gretchen! She’s hilarious…especially when she’s drunk. All the other house wives are simply jealous of how pretty and youthful she is….especially Tamra.

  • 80. flavius johnson  |  January 14, 2009 at 7:28 am

    she seems like areal sweet and caring person,deffently a hotty,she makes the show worth seeing

  • 81. Jenn  |  January 14, 2009 at 8:46 am

    I am so terribly sorry about Jeff ‘s passing. I know I only have the TV to gauge your championship, but I truly felt that you both cared about each other, and were in love. I hope you are able to find happiness in your life. I work in a CCU at a large hospital. There are many times we, as nurses, want to tell family members that they NEED remember to do things for themselves. Not only was her trip appropriate, but it was well deserved. Anyone that is sitting in the ICU with anyone knows that breaks are encouraged by staff. I’m really mad that the last episode has portrayed her as as a drunk, “adulteress”. when people are sad, or stressed they tend to overcompensate with alcohol, and they think “home with friends” is a safe place to do that.She was wrong because Tamra was trying to set her up. I think that Tamara, who I previously liked, is a jealous bitch for doing what she did to her. I would like her to know that there are people out there that actually see what you she has had to go through , and sympathize with her. Ryan is hot and ANY of us would have drunk flirted with him if he was flirting with us. You go girl. Keep being sweet.

  • 82. Anonymous  |  January 14, 2009 at 11:57 am

    Gretchen is ridiculous. What about her trip to Lake Bass? She says that no one knows how hard it’s been…yada….yada…yada….But I do have a clue, and I know the difference between taking a rest/break and partying it up….a much needed rest/break I understand, but she was flaunting around in her bikini, center of attention (as always), living it up on the lake, while her husband was in intensive care. I feel like she wanted the kids there more for her personal reasons than anything. I mean, seriously, all of you Gretchen supporters- Did you watch last night? Tell me your not going to make excuses for her actions at Tamara’s dinner party.

  • 83. brittany  |  January 14, 2009 at 7:33 pm

    hi gretchen!! im soooo sorry to hear about jeff!! your awesome i love watching you on the housewives!

  • 84. lala  |  January 15, 2009 at 7:43 pm

    bottom line is gretchen made him happy and thats all that matters. she was with him before he got sick and she clearly loved him, no amount of money in the world is worth going through that pain and heartache to watch him die. thoughts and prayers to gretchen and his children.

  • 85. Anthony Dulisse  |  January 15, 2009 at 8:03 pm

    Ok people here it is i have read everyones comments and bottom line is this. If she was attracted to Jeff and truly loved him then thats fine,but look at the way she conducted herself when she was away from him. Does her actions portray a person who is in mourning knowing that the love of their life is about to pass away? No not at all,she was partying it up at every given opportunity. The realization of her actions are being felt by her as we speak believe me cause now she sees what all of us see. She has to live with herself. Good luck looking in the mirror everyday Gretchen.

  • 86. K  |  January 15, 2009 at 11:57 pm

    Anyone talking smack about jeffs kids should take a minute to reflect on themselves. You’re how old? And talking about teenagers? Does that make you feel good? And jill, the one who wanted the car? She’s a great girl..she just gave our friend a marc Jacobs purse for her birthday as a thank you for everything shed done for her lately. So stop!

  • 87. brenda  |  January 16, 2009 at 12:05 am

    first and foremost i want to say that im sorry to jear about jeffs passing. this must be so sad for you. although some of the other housewives (tamra & vicki) impose, on the show, that you dont love him, its very obvious that you do. with that said, i also want to say that you are beautiful and you are the housewife we all were waiting for! you are so great! xoxoxox

  • 88. Stayze  |  January 17, 2009 at 1:51 am

    Jeff wasn’t a stupid man and as is often the case he was attracted to her looks and she was to his money. But it probably isn’t that simple. With her looks came youth, excitement, a feeling of achievment for him. With his money came security, being taken care of and being spoiled. There was a payoff for both of them and a gain for both. They met needs each other had. Many relationships are based on less. I have been married for 18 years and my husband is 10 years older than I am. We are comfortable but not rich. When we met part of the attraction was his stability, and part of that was money. Part of his attraction to me was my spontaneity and we balance each other out. I make life fun and he grounds me. When we first met he wasn’t the type of guy I am normally attracted to. He is good looking but I was attracted to the bad boys. I thought I might be bored but I kept going out with him because he was so nice and yes, his money was part of some wonderful dates. From there we fell in love as we got to know each other. I got to know him as a man that is the kindest, most honorable person alive. He went from wanting to take care of me to seeing the person I really am and encouraging me to follow my dreams. Only the very immature throw labels around and don’t understand that people come together for many different reasons. But as long as both people are honest who are we to judge what works or doesn’t work for another couple. I am sorry for her loss of Jeff and with her and the children the best.

  • 89. Kim  |  January 17, 2009 at 5:43 am

    Doesn’t everybody go to dinner parties and grind up against their friend’s husbands, then take shots, grab their boobs and yell, ” this is fun let’s do it again, then go off to the bathroom with the hostess’ young son. After all this is a etiquette party and Gretchen is stressed and feeling down people!

    P.S. Wonder what Jeff’s kids thought of that episode?

  • 90. jennijo  |  January 19, 2009 at 1:41 am

    gretchen, you are a beautiful person inside and out and i think your very courageous for standing by jeffs side till the end, who is to say that because your pretty that your incapable of loving someone, that beeing beautiful and young makes you a gold digger, no one has any right to judge you, especially out of jelousy, i symphathize with you and all you have had to put up with while you agonize the suffering of watching your love pass away, you have obviously done right enough by Jeff to deserve his love, dont ever let go of what you know in your soul, nothing else matters. sincerly, jennijo

  • 91. nathalie  |  January 19, 2009 at 2:27 am

    I don’t know what to say about all these comments. Everybody has a point but the bottom line is that it’s a reality show and the women feel the need to act the way they do to get attention and look “cool”. You would think that being on camera would force you to watch yourself but in fact it seems to give them the adrenaline to show off and make fools out of themselves. ( except jeana and lauri) It almost looks like high school!! However I do like the show,it is entertaining but what turned me off was when Tamra set Gretchen up at the dinner party! TAMRA: You are pathetic and completely immature!! I feel sorry for your younger children who will one day watch your behavior on TV! I am not here to judge but I felt like she crossed the line, and maybe one day you will reflect on what you did when it happens to your daughter! (hopefully)

  • 92. Karen  |  January 21, 2009 at 1:48 am


    I watch the show because I am addicted! I can’t believe there are women who actually act and behave that way at their age (we are all out of junior high people). I truly thought you would be a breath of fresh air on the show, but the more I watch the more I think Bravo made a poor decision. You speak of coming on the show to make people more aware of Jeff’s disease and I rarely saw you doing anything to raise awareness for anything but behaving like you back in college? You need to grow up and act like you have graduated from college and be an adult. You speak of how childish all the other ladies are but you are right there in the mix. My thought is the only reason you signed on to do the show was to launch yourself onto television. I am truly sorry for your loss and feel horrible for the suffering that Jeff had to endure, but I think as soon as he began to go downhill with his illness you should have been adult enough to leave the show and truly “devote yourself full time to his care”. Grow up and be a real adult — youth and beauty is only skin deep and you will not always have your looks to rely upon — look deep inside yourself and really determine who you really are and how you can be all you can be!!!

  • 93. SHORTKID  |  January 21, 2009 at 4:53 am

    I would like to extend my condolences to you and your family. I know that it has been several months since Jeff’s passing, but it is better late than never. I really wish you much success in life. You are a strong women and can get though it. I do not know you personally but it is evident in the way inwhich you carry yourself and present yourself on the show. Always remember that no matter if he is here on earth or up in heaven he will be there by your side though everything that life throws you. Everything will work out! Keep your chin up. You are in all of our prayers!

  • 94. shorty1738  |  January 21, 2009 at 9:12 am


  • 95. Y  |  January 21, 2009 at 6:57 pm

    It’s sad how many people out there have such anger and hate. People let it go it’s not worth it. Gretchen and Jeff were together for a reason, only they know for sure. Whatever the reason at this point does not matter. She was there and did take care of him, he didn’t seem unhappy to me. I can’t agree with her behavior at Tamara’s house but Tamara has no class to me for doing what she did, trying to get Gretchen drunk. Grow up!!! That was low and completely uncalled for. I too am someone that knows what it feels like to lose someone, I lost my husband to Pancreatic Cancer in June of 07 after a 7 month battle, I was 33 and he was 43. I too had those moments when he was in the hospital that I just wanted to run and leave just to have alone time or to get away. In some cases I did, well others were with him. It gets very depressing and upsetting a lot of the time and you start to feel helpless because you can’t do anything to make this person feel better. It’s very frustrating for the patient and the caregiver. I never partied or went out drinking but I did go out just to get some “me” time. I don’t think anyone has the right to judge her actions even if you have been in this situation, EVERYONE REACTS DIFFERENTLY to every situation. It may not be my way or someone elses way but it was her way and she was there till the end. Whether it was for love or money is no ones business and no ones concern. I think a lot of people that make comments about golddiggers are just upset because they haven’t been lucky enough to find that same situation for themselves. Which is very sad! Get over yourself and grow up.My deepest sympathy’s go out to his children,Gretchen, and his entire family.

  • 96. JRoth  |  January 22, 2009 at 2:13 am

    Gretchen….Greedy Greedy Gretchen…you may be beautiful on the outside, but you are an ugly ugly human on the inside. You should be ashamed of yourself- the way you party and carry on with other guys while your fiance was dying in the hospital! Shame on you- you are a horrible person!

  • 97. mykids  |  January 23, 2009 at 6:04 am

    regardless of what Gretchen is, he looked like a very nice man, and its terrible to die in that way, he obviously suffered allot before passing. my husband and I are 8 years apart, as long as its for the right reasons, age is just a number. its common in our culture to marry older men so that part is no biggie to me.

  • 98. angel  |  January 25, 2009 at 3:42 am


  • 99. Florice  |  January 26, 2009 at 1:31 am

    The scene Gretchen made while at Tamra’s house was heartbreaking to watch. There doesn’t appear to be any winners here. All of these women leave much to be desired and if Vicky doesn’t watch her back AND her husband, Jeana or some other “OC” woman will gladly take him off her hands.

  • 100. YourMom  |  January 26, 2009 at 2:10 am


    And TRUST ME…I’m a VERY good source to this information. Close personal friend of one of those gentlemen.

  • 101. NativeGinger  |  January 26, 2009 at 5:07 am

    No, I hate no one.It is sad to see these women looking shallow and selfish though.What have we come to?

  • 102. michelle-troy, mi  |  January 28, 2009 at 4:14 am

    gretchen- so sorry about jeff. i really like u and him. don’t listen to all these other haters. your a sweet girl. god bless jeff.

  • 103. Ash  |  January 28, 2009 at 7:57 pm

    Has no one honestly ever saw someone as “not their type” and been completely won over by their personality the more you got to know them? Sure, Gretchen got a little extra in the material department because her fiance happened to have a lot of money, but Jeff’s choice was to spend that money. If he felt the only way to keep Gretchen happy was to spend money on her, if he wasn’t happy, I’m sure it wouldn’t have been what it was. He was happy and he made the choice to give her to good things in life because he was capable. How many poor husbands/boyfriends wish they could give more to the women they love but don’t have the means too? So when my boyfriend blows up in his new career and starts making a lot of money and is popular on television, am I to be worried that I will be labeled a Gold Digger because even with what little we have now, we still try and spoil each other? So when it comes easier to do such a thing, I must beware because I’m gonna be a greedy little bitch.

    Love comes in different shapes and sizes. My first love was actually someone who I thought was absolutely annoying and not attractive at ALL. He wasn’t my TYPE. HE persued me, as Jeff did to Gretchen, and we struck up a friendship. My intial intention was not that we’d spend years together and I’d be madly in love with him. I was won over by his charm and from there, I fell madly in love with him. Money is NOT everything and those who actually live for it AS everything, seek OUT their victims and try extremely HARD to get their prize. They don’t play hard to get or have any point in their existence where they “couldn’t picture themselves with them.” Gold Diggers are usually the twats that talk about love at first sight and just how they HAD to have them. THEY generally persue. What would any of you ladies who talk shit do if you were in that situation? Be a successful businesswoman and meet someone who wins you over and has a lot of money and likes to spend it on you? If Jeff didn’t like to spend his money on anything, I’m sure he’d penny pinch. My uncle made a wise business choice and seemed to become a millionaire overnight w/ a business venture. He prefers to know he has money and that it’s there. He lives modestly and you wouldn’t know they had more than a modest office job salary. He’s fully capable of spending lots, but he choses not to at all.

    Gretchen got a lucky break. Falling for a guy that was totally loaded who loved to spend money on her. My own father is not “loaded” by any means but he has saved well in his life. He’s from Jeff’s generation and “old fashioned.” My dad doesn’t like to let ladies pay for anything if he can help it and he likes for them to smile and feel appreciated. Some guys do it with flowers because it’s in their budget. Those more capable, do it with diamonds. Don’t be jealous and hate on Gretchen because she found someone like that and you don’t have that. Would you then be able to look at yourself in the mirror if you were in her shoes? Would you tell your loving fiance who wanted to shower you with luxuries, “no babe, no thanks.” He wants to see you smile! And you give his gift back. Really?

    Stop judging and GET over it.

  • 104. Jen  |  January 28, 2009 at 8:04 pm

    Okay people.

    This is a TV show. Lauri decided to leave the show because she was rarely taped. She spent a ton of time w/ her family but compared to everyone else, we don’t know how much that is. See her for a few hours a week maybe?

    Gretch is on a TV SHOW. They want to record her life. She DOES go to the hospital and why would she LIE on TV about being there? They have big events, this show was recorded over the course of many many MONTHS. Gretchen’s best moments may be when she gets to CUT LOOSE and that is all TV ready. It’s an hour show of HOW many episodes spanned out every day for how long? Seriously. They chop up the footage between four/five people at a time then have group moments.

    Why would anyone honestly say that she was NEVER with Jeff? I’m sure she was with him anytime she wasn’t filming and if you notice, a lot of their commentary is in clothing they wore on different days and shows. I’m sure ladies that sophisticated and wealthy, don’t have to repeat outfits in the same week or even MONTH. Seriously.

    Consider it. It’s fuckin TV

  • 105. Molly  |  January 28, 2009 at 8:28 pm

    My best friend was with her husband since High-School. They had been married since getting out of HS and were only 24 when he got diagnosed with cancer, AGAIN. He had his first bought it when he was IN high-school but beat it.

    He was at home on hospice and she actually made all his friends “call ahead” and schedule an appointment to see him. She was stressed out w/ all the coming and going and felt so sorry to see him in the state he was. SHE didn’t take care of him, someone inside the house did… so she would often go out and be with people who made her smile, only to come home and cry because the love of her life was going to die. People thought when she was out, saying how BAD she felt and acting so glad to be around friends was very cold. But that’s how she DEALT with it!

    His own childhood friends were moritified that they had to make an appointment to see their buddy on his dying bed. His own MOTHER was turned away at the door because she came over unnannounced and my friend felt that he was having one of his better days and sleeping it off. He was usually up all night throwing up. She started dieting, going to the gym and losing weight as if to prepare herself to start dating again once he was gone, yet he was STILL alive. She loves him dearly and always has, people just GRIEVE DIFFERENTLY!

    By the time he died, she was skinnier than she had every been. She even shocked everyone by showing up to the funeral talking about how much weight she lost and how good she looked. He didn’t have any MONEY for her to gain from him. He didn’t have anything except the significant fact that he was the love of her life and her husband for many years. Also being so young and now wondering “What if”. Where would the relationship end up if he never passed away? If he never had cancer? Alone, she grieves. And that is exclusively ALONE. Her personality is just like that… little does she know, the world around her expects her to be a total wreck and not be able to hold it together. She can’t ALONE. But around people, she focuses on other things and stays strong, for them. Because the minute she starts crying, the whole circle of friends does. Crying can bring down your entire day and depression can be deadly. She chooses not to live in this gloom and depress her family and friends merely by her presence. She does not want to make their day filled with sadness. If she were to cry and be down, why would anyone else want to smile and be happy, for fear that it would be inappropriate? Everyone laughs when she laughs. Everyone is themselves and so is she. It alarms some people after the fact that maybe she isn’t grieving. But she has and she still is.

    Because Gretchen can smile and laugh with everyone else does not mean she does not sit by Jeff’s bedside and cry as she watches him sleep. Why would she cry over the comment Tamra made to her if she wasn’t frustrated for being judged for her situation when that’s not how it IS.

  • 106. GRETCHENSPUSSY  |  January 29, 2009 at 6:08 am

    Stop saying ‘He loved her, he chose to be with her’

    A man can’t resist the poontang!

  • 107. paperdoll  |  January 29, 2009 at 11:36 am

    I really like Grethen she was taking care of this man all by hrself, his children came down to give her a little break. When she went to the Lake she said that Jeff had been there the year before so they were together before he got sick so people need to stop judging her. He loved her and wanted to marry her, and he had been married 5 times before. So how can anyone judge anyone unless your God?? You can’t and aren’t supposed to unless You want to be judged.
    I pray that she will keep being real and not money hyngry like others on the show..

  • 108. Niecy  |  January 29, 2009 at 10:26 pm

    Gretchen, I just wanted to say How sorry I am for your loss..My heart goes out to you and Jeff’s children..To those who are so QUICK to pass judgement, I took care of both my parents when they became ill and then passed and let me tell you it is no picnic to see someone you love so deaply dying before your eyes and you feel so helpless..Sometimes you need a little break to laugh and enjoy a few days of fun where you are NOT obsessed with caring for another person..Does it mean you care less? NO!!! it just means you need a sanity break..I know I was the only one here to care for my Mom and Dad and I was emotionally exausted…I would have loved a Few days to just relax and find something to laugh about..So Gretchen HOLD YOUR HEAD HIGH!! never listen to anyone who has NOT walked in your shoes..I applaud you for all you did to make Jeff’s last days better for him..You would have been no good to him if you didn’t get a break once in awhile and became ill yourself..God Bless you and I am sure God will bless you for your love and caring..

  • 109. Linda N.  |  February 1, 2009 at 8:21 am

    I agree with ash and Y95… I try to judge people by my own intuition, I pay attention to their actions and what they say and how they treat people. From what I have watched of the show, I grew to like Gretchen more with each passing show, as I watched how she handled herself under certain situations, how she treated people, even when they were not so nice. She came off to me just the way she described herself in her blog… Coincidence? I don’t think so, because I have always been told I have a keen sense for figuring people out, and, one of the reasons I liked her is because, she reminded me of me. And, yes, I like myself, and, I think I am a very genuine person, what you see is what you get, I tell it like it is, and, if you don’t like me, then, oh well, not everyone is going to like everyone anyway, some people just don’t click. I can only speak from the point of view of what I gathered from the show, Because I do not know any of these people personally, but, Gretchen tried to be kind to everyone and give them all their fair chance to show their own true colors, which they did. She did not provoke the catty remarks,the unjustified speculations, and, their down right rudeness that was so continuously portrayed on each episode. She can not help she is beautiful, let’s get that straight, I think what bothers some people is that she is beautiful, and, she acts goofy and likes to laugh and have a good time, and, not take things so seriously, which just makes her more appealing to someone who is not judging her just for her looks, and, you are thinking, how dare her be beautiful, “and” have a personality, why does she get to have it all, you say. They were together for 4 years, I can’t imagine spending that amount of time with someone I didn’t care anything at all about, and, has anyone stopped to think, she could have just as easily with all that she has going for her found a Young,hot, rich man, if that is what she requires to be happy.(the money) It’s just too easy to hate her because she has so many things that the haters do not have , and the goods to obtain them, that the haters do not have, that she is just a good candidate for their hatred. I bet if she was just average looking no one would think much about it, it’s not like it’s the first case of older guy younger girl, so, why all the fuss about these two? Let’s just admit it, there are those of us that hate to see others happy, especially when our own lives suck. Instead of being happy for those people it makes you feel better to tear them down, to find fault with what they are doing, as if it somehow directly effects your own life. Well, it doesn’t, and, maybe the reason your own life isn’t so great is, you are too busy judging what other people are doing, and, why, that you can not live your own life, too caught up in someone else’s drama. Maybe if you found a way to make your own life happy, you would stop worrying so much about who else is or isn’t living right. Kind hearted people, have nice things to say about others, mean-spirited people just want to drag everyone down, so they don’t have to be alone in their misery. Live your life, worry about your worries, love who you want to love, for true love knows no bounds, and, for those of you who have not found it, you can not truly understand it, let alone stand in judgement of it!!!!!! Thank you

  • 110. kintch  |  February 1, 2009 at 10:20 pm

    Does anyone know if Gretchen was a beneficiary of Jeff’s estate?

  • 111. Maya  |  February 1, 2009 at 10:56 pm


    I just love you!!! I love your contagious laugh and your vibriant spirit. You’re such a beautiful woman.

    Can you tell me where do you shop??? I love your outfits espeically your dresses. Let me know.

    take care,

  • 112. Understanding  |  February 2, 2009 at 6:49 pm

    I wish people would stop thinking she could only love this man for money when I know that is not the case. My husband is 20 years older than me. I met him when I was 27 and he was 47. We are now 37 and 57. I love him dearly and it has nothing to do with money. We are equally successful. Despite what people think about Gretchen I believed she loved Jeff and until you are in her shoes taking care of a person that ill no one has the right to say anything. I thought Tamara’s comment was very inappropriate because she should never say never. My husband is the love of my life and if he gets sick I would be by his side but if I feel like I need a break than that’s just what I would do…..take a break like Gretchen did. My heart goes out to her!

  • 113. kimberley  |  February 3, 2009 at 9:46 pm

    There is a little truth in all said but what is shown on tv is mostly editing. So Gretchen found a womanizer who wanted to marry her and maybe Jaff wasn’t a womanizer as much as he was looking for true love,maybe he found that with Gretchen and believed in marriage.I have been married 4 times,not for money cause I’m poor as a church mouse but gotta give Jeff that,no one knows what was in his heart.
    And yes I think Lynns daughters are spoiled rotten brats.Tamara is just a step above trailer trash,who else would give such a beautiful party to try and make someones life miserable?Glad she’s no my friend. I like Jeana but she’s passive aggressive and her son Shane needs a good swift kick in the ass,he’s not even all that.And I think Lauri is a very good actress.Look at her children, all screwed up but when she met George she added that old money thing, she’s trailer trash too isn’t she?And Vicki, she is driven and Briana is a dear but Vicki’s voice is mindnumbing and it’s okay for the girls to want to come out and play buit she made nast comments about tamra with her hand on simons business.I loved seeing cellulite on tamras thighs when she squatted down in the fountain,during the nugget episode. Very entertaining,just goes to show money doesn’t buy class.

  • 114. Barb jochims  |  February 4, 2009 at 5:36 am

    Gretchen, I am so so so sorry for you and /your step children. I am A Lot Like you gretchen, only I’m 41. Trust me, I do not look it. I’m a Labor and delivery Rn, a x-pro athletes wife and we have a 20yr old daughter together. We were HS sweet hearts, but I met so many crazy ass PRO/wifes. Still till this day I’m 40 and cute. Most people think in 34ish. I am now very happly married it will be 15yrs. I left my X, and took our 3yr old daughter, because he cheated. I had more respect for myself, child or not. Please you are very pretty, but never settle. I saw how you were with jeff, only on Tv, but I could see in both your eyes, that you loved each other. Please, protect yourself, you a great woman that has a lot to offer. Watch your back, some of your so called friend “talk about you or it seens to me are jealous and verbally treat you like crap!’ Hold your head hi, know jeff is going to be an angel watching over you and his family. Lastly know, not everone judges a pretty girl, as “looks bright, but lights are on, but no one is home “upstairs”. Be strong. I’m from the home land of jeanna WI.. Call if ever want to, talk,cry, or anything. I know what it is like to have someone, that you love die. i had a baby boy die in my arms! I’m Barb. 414-313-1943. This is not a joke. God bless. Keep your head up and ears open, around you. Some of your so called friends are a piece of work. I’m sure you know who they are! Hugs/barb

  • 115. dmac  |  February 5, 2009 at 2:03 pm

    you people are all lame. You act like you know her or something…

  • 116. Barb jochims  |  February 5, 2009 at 2:46 pm

    Oh ya for all, you jealous, haters. Shut your mouth, look your self in the mirrow, and for the love of God. Money or no money. This was a family. The children, Gretchen, and for God may we all let Jeff and his family live with respect, love, and peace. For who, knows YOU may lose a loved one unexpected. And nobody is perfect. So you evil, jealous, haters, shut the hell up. And let their family greive in peace and respect, that we all ALL, deserve. Even you DUMB ASSES THAT HAVE NOTHING, BUT BAD THING TO SAY ABOUT GRETCHEN or Jeff. So in that, hold your head high Gretchen, embrace your family, friends, and as for the haters, I’m sure the shoe will be on their foot one day, and they get hate letters, like they sent you. Take care, hold onto the good memories you and jeff had, but take your time and move forward. It does believe, me get better. BJ

  • 117. Nancy  |  February 5, 2009 at 8:12 pm

    God Bless Jeff. He was a wonderful and caring man.

  • 118. MissYY  |  February 5, 2009 at 11:13 pm

    I don’t think she was a gold digger…..
    She was really pretty =) Neways… If she were a gold digger She would of push the marriage on before he died DOnt you think.?

  • 119. used to live in oc and am not blonde  |  February 7, 2009 at 4:30 pm

    after being together for 12 yrs and having lost a husband who was 20 yrs my senior, I can tell you laughing :HYSTERICALLY” is not the worst of it!
    when you walk in her pumps you still don’t get to judge! You want to pick on someon try that demon bat Vickie, why someone hasn’t smothered that ugly, mean, loud, obdnoxious shrew with a pillow yet is beyond me.

  • 120. Shari  |  February 9, 2009 at 1:00 am

    Very sad,, I just read this after seeing the show where he was released from the hospital 😥

  • 121. Kim  |  February 9, 2009 at 5:19 am

    I never thought I would say this, but I’m starting to like Lynn. Still can’t stand her daughter, but kind of like Lynn. I don’t think the elevator goes to the top, but that’s what makes me like her. She is sweet and simple and she has a kind of hippie 60’s mind thing going on. I hate how everyone is cruel to her, because I just don’t think she has a mean spirit about her. But, unfortunately she let’s that “bad seed” daughter of her’s run all over. Lynn, you got to get ahold of Rachael before she becomes a daughter you will be taking care of the rest of your life!

    I know this whole blog has been about Gretchen, but I’m tired of reading about her.

  • 122. Megraven  |  February 10, 2009 at 5:41 am

    I think ppl are just jealous, Gretched played nurse to Jeff and was with him for years before he got sick. She speaks on the show about how he was before his cancer, and obviously cares for him, most hos wont do the needle/hospital stuff no matter how much you pay them, they dont have the capacity.
    My husband is 18 years my senior and I love him. We have been together for 4 years and I wouldn’t give that time up for anything. As jeanna puts it there is something about being in a stable relationship with an older man that is refreshing and safe. Older men aren’t as prone to do stupid crap that my ex-husband who was my age did. They are way more stable and more experienced and really know how to treat a lady!
    If Jeff was happy, why are ppl hating on Gretchen? Clearly she did a good job making him happy or he would not have kept her around. He was NOT dumb, and he was very successful. His choice to be with Gretchen is a testiment to her own character, someone like Jeff would NOT be with a bad person. 10s don’t marry (or engage) to 2s..

  • 123. Cayleen  |  February 10, 2009 at 6:50 pm

    Gretchen is a perfect example of everything that is wrong and sad about our society, and the people defending her here are an example of the ignorance portion of our society who support all that is wrong. Gretchen is quite simply a gold digger. I’m sure she had a fondess for the man but to put it blatantly, he was repulsive and sadly deathly ill. I don’t feel sorry for him. Gretchen is what he was looking for in life, clearly showing off his money and arm candy is what he found important and fulfilling in life. Gretchen was fulfilling a social purpose for this man and that kind off thing costs money. She earned every penny. Good for her. But lets call it what it is, it certainly isn’t love. This world is obessessed with money and being blond and beautiful. This man should have been spending $65,000 on his kids, not on this chick. Married 5 times. Wow, what a tool.

  • 124. mikesmom  |  February 10, 2009 at 9:14 pm

    do you people really believe Gretchen was taking care of him. Grow up/ with their money someone was taking care of both of them. Just showing up in order to collect your money is just visiting. the worst kids are Jeana’s boys /good grief

  • 125. AmandaClarice  |  February 11, 2009 at 2:57 am

    It’s terrible that he has passed away. I believe as she has said, you don’t live her life so you have no reason to judge it. I wish I could give her a big hug, I’m so disappointed that he has passed away. She really did love him, and for those who don’t believe it that’s terrible of you. Best wishes and RIP Jeff.

  • 126. Sandra  |  February 11, 2009 at 6:57 am


    I never realized Jeff had passed away. I am so sorry for your loss. My husband and I are 23 years apart. He is 60 now and not in the best of health. He and I have been together for 10 years. I completely related with you in the RHOC series. I understand the love and devotion you had for Jeff. You are an amazing young woman. Hang in there and know that this fan respected everything you did to make Jeff happy.


  • 127. mary  |  February 11, 2009 at 9:05 pm

    Gretchen Im so sorry to hear of your lost!!!! I cant even imagine what your going through, but I will pray for you!!

  • 128. cooliemango  |  February 12, 2009 at 5:19 pm

    All of you that put this poor girl down when Jeff picked her. So what he had money, he got a great looking girl and she had the benefits of money. they both made than agreement.
    All you haters!!!!! My god!!! You all are so critical of someone else. Judgemental and silly. Gretchen has a great sense of humor, A COLLEGE GRAD, hello ??? so she didnt need anyone. She can take care of her herself. She’s hurting. Oh,… and was faithful… more than I can say about you pigs!!!

  • 129. Debra  |  February 14, 2009 at 8:44 am

    Gretchen is my favorite housewife. For all you haters, you do not see that she is just a happy, bright outgoing person and Jeff loved what she brought to his life. Of course they did not show the hours she sat by his hospital bed or changed his IVs, who would want to watch that?

    Do you think Jeff was with her just because she was fun? He was with her because she was young and beautiful and he loved having her on his arm. She admitted she was not initially physically attracted to him but that his warm and loving personality won her over and they were engaged a year before he got sick, she just didn’t get the ring until later.

    People choose each other for various reasons. Its just as easy to love a rich man than a poor man and why wouldn’t a beautiful woman like Gretchen be entitled to find love with benefits. He wouldn’t have been with her if she was homely and fat thats for sure.

  • 130. Debra  |  February 14, 2009 at 8:46 am

    Can you please remove my last name and website information? Thank you.

  • 131. sick  |  February 15, 2009 at 2:53 am

    To answer the above queston …… Was she in is estate? OH you bet she collected and she collected hugly…. sick amounts of money… shy of a million! I also know for fact that she basically demanded a life insurance policy while he was in the hospital, shortly before he died. What a SICK, MORBID bitch… Greedy as they come!

  • 132. Karen  |  February 16, 2009 at 1:47 pm

    I am so sorry for your loss Gretchen you are in my prayers.. Stay Strong.. When I read the article in the tv guide I had tears in my eyes. That is so sad that he passed away..

  • 133. kristina  |  February 17, 2009 at 7:55 pm

    I just want to say…so sorry for your loss, don’t lose your amazing spirit, you are a vivacious girl and THE REAL HOUSEWIVES OF ORANGE COUNTY is lucky to have you.

  • 134. Debbie  |  February 17, 2009 at 11:53 pm

    My sympahties go out to all those who loved and cared for Jeff. I do not judge Gretchen for her relationship with Jeff, Gretchen and Jeff knew the truth about their relationship, and it’s non of any one else’s business.

    Rest in peace, Mr. Beitzel.

  • 135. Michelle R  |  February 18, 2009 at 4:11 am

    Gretchen, I believe you are the most beautiful OC housewife not because of your looks but because of your kind heart and personality. I was so sad when Jeana mentioned at the end of the show that Jeff had passed away. I could tell how much you loved him and I don’t believe for one second that you could ever be a gold digger. I am so sorry for you loss and I just hope you are okay.
    Michelle R

  • 136. tori  |  February 18, 2009 at 4:12 am


    you are an inspiration. truly. i am so sorry to hear about your loss. i can’t even imagine what you’re going through. you brought a lot of laughs to my life, and it was such a pleasure to see someone who enjoyed life so much.

  • 137. jodi kubitschek  |  February 18, 2009 at 4:18 am

    Gretchen…dont listen to all the jealous people saying your a gold digger its obvious he loved you and you loved him! im so sorry for your loss!! you are so beautiful inside and out!!….i hope you find happiness again!! and you need to throw Vicky and Tamra under a bus!! they are not your friends!! lynn has your back!! God Bless

  • 138. Kay  |  February 18, 2009 at 4:18 am

    First of all he wasn’t an old man(54 is only middle aged). She is a horrible person. How can anyone be so naive to believe she was with him because she loved him. Please! My Mother died of cancer at 58 a few years ago. I hardly ever wanted to go have a (good) time. Maybe here and there just to feel normal. It consumes your every thought. You constantly worry about them and want to be by your loved one’s side. But, she was always having fun and spending money. She did not act like a behreaved (spg?) person whatsoever. She deserves bad comments about her. Ana Nicole got hers with her bad Karma and so will Gretchen.

  • 139. Kay  |  February 18, 2009 at 4:20 am

    One more thing, she is not very attractive. a plastic barbie doll type. There are plenty of true beauties, not her. She just isn’t beautiful.

  • 140. Orgerie Godwin  |  February 18, 2009 at 4:25 am

    Sorry for you loss, I can relate to you I was married to a man who was 25 years older than me, he lost his battle to colon cancer in 2003. It has been very hard on me because regardless of our age differance we loved each other. You hold your head up and don’t listen to people trying to judge you. I miss my husband each and everyday. You are in my prayers, God Bless you and Jeff’s family.
    Orgerie Godwin
    Laurinburg, NC 28352

  • 141. Alex  |  February 18, 2009 at 4:29 am

    My father passed away from cancer 2 yrs ago. He and my stepmother were married for 5 yrs. She recieved the house I grew up in, as well as half of the net worth of my father. I feel like I was victimized. This woman came out of nowhere are within 5 years took millions away from me and my family. Watching this show was just a reminder of how these women stalk their prey and take everything.

    I do not see how a new spouse is entitled to all that money that the person made over the many years before meeting that spouse. They were not around all that time. The children were the ones who were always there, the children are the bloodline.

    Gretchen was partying while Jeff was dying in the hospital! She was making out with Vicki’s son in the bathroom! Wake up people, anybody who thinks Gretch isnt a golddigger is one themselves or has been in the past and want to justify their actions.

    I hope that the children were not victimized by this woman the way I was victimzed by one of these black widows. She would have ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with Jeff is he was not rich. The guy looked like he was 70 years old.

    The whole propect of this situation and others like this just absolutely disgusts and infuriates me.

  • 142. Mary-Kate Schafer  |  February 18, 2009 at 4:31 am

    I just watched the Finale to hear that Jeff had passed away and I was devastated. I feel so bad for Gretchen, though it’s been months it’s still probably just as hard for her. The two portrayed what appeared as true love on the show. I don’t see how any of you have the place to call her a gold digger. I’ve been with people I didn’t find physically attractive at first. Personality beats it. and his being able to care for her and love her probably put something towards it.

  • 143. SHELLY  |  February 18, 2009 at 4:35 am


  • 144. barb  |  February 18, 2009 at 5:53 am

    Grenchen, I what you to know I think you are BRAVE and a very loving wife to be to Jeff. He was a lucky man to have you by his side! I think you would have made beautiful children seeing his children that came to support their dad. Grenchen, kow your in a lot of peoples thoughts and prayers. I know your a strong woman, and I had a baby that died, and I can only hope you have the same circle of friends to support you and get you through this. Trust me without my family and friends when my baby boy died in my arms, i would have lost it. Turn to your friends, and if you ever need anyone to talkk to call me. 313-1943, PS I;m a Rn and I know some single MDs’, also I’m 41, but I’ve been called a hottie,hottie, MILF. Just tried to make you smile, but I;m serious. Take Care, you now have an angel Jeff in heaven looking over you. Barb Jochims

  • 145. cory vanderbilt  |  February 18, 2009 at 7:15 am

    i just watched the finale and was heartbroken i know it was a few months ago but im really sorry for your loss i thought better late than never. i hope your doing well.
    just by the show
    you look like a whole lot of fun.
    -Cory Vanderbilt

  • 146. CourtandNessa  |  February 18, 2009 at 8:08 am


    My best friend Courtney and I just finished watching this last season and were devastated when the news was broken at the end of the show that Jeff had passed away. We truly believe that you had an authentic relationship with him and our love and prayers are with you during this time. I enjoyed your giggly spirit on the T.V show and congrats to not giving in to being rude like Tamera and Vicky. By the way I think that your gifts for them were from the heart.. who wouldn’t love a ooach change purse to go out dancing! It’s the perfect gift!

    Best wish,

  • 147. Mike  |  February 18, 2009 at 8:31 am

    Having just watched the season finale, I too was shocked and saddened to hear of Jeff’s death. It’s even more tragic when bad things happen to good people. Gretchen is adorable, and from all indication, a real survivor. If I only lived in OC!

  • 148. April  |  February 18, 2009 at 10:19 am


    i have nothing…or at least nothing to say that you haven’t already heard, but i believe in you. you give me hope…please…..i heard about jeff just today and i am so sorry. i was devistated by your loss. even though i saw it on tv, i still cried. they only gave him…maybe a second on tv….but those words i will never forget….”he lost the battle”….i was heart broken for you because if i was in the same situation i would have fallen apart. i hurt for you. it sounds so stupid, but i wish you the best and if my words could maybe bring a glimmer of hope in your life then this was worth my time. i am a simple woman with simple dreams, but you dreamt so big and you lived every moment of it. never let those women get you down. you are amazing and your energy is amazing. i wish i could be with my highschool girls and be able to have the same support structure you have.

  • 149. Jessica  |  February 18, 2009 at 12:37 pm

    I am very sad that Jeff died. You guys seem so close and good together. IT is cvery hard to lose someone you love adn care for deeply. YOu just have to remebmer them everyday and know that you made his adn your life better. YOu will be sad for a long time to come but you are strong and I believe all of you guys will make it . I will keep all of you in my prayers, and don’t worry about other people say you just be your own person

  • 150. Betty in Sc  |  February 18, 2009 at 2:29 pm

    Gretchen, I was so sorry to hear about Jeff’s passing. I too lost my true love early in our relationship 8 years ago and my world was turned upside down but like they all say time heals everything. I hope that God heals your pain and that you find comfort in knowning one day you will be with Jeff again, that’s what has kept me going!! I love the show and you are my favorite housewife and I hope to see you on the next season, Tuesday night want be the same without my girl Gretchen!! My prayers are with you and the family, may God bless all of you!!Betty in South Carolina.

  • 151. Kim  |  February 18, 2009 at 3:00 pm

    Really sad about Jeff. Don’t let the jealous, bitter women (tamara,vicki) make you feel bad. Jeff was a smart man, he knew what he was doing. I hope you were taken care of.You made Jeff’s last days happier!

  • 152. Karin  |  February 18, 2009 at 3:19 pm

    My heart goes out to Gretchen. It was obvious that she and Jeff really loved each other. I believe that she has a genuine heart and was not a gold digger like so many thought. She bought HER OWN house (read her RHOC blog) and worked for everything she had. She also paid for Jeff’s bills for a long time with her own money. She stood by his bedside, took care of him and talked about him constantly. That’s commitment. He only looked much older than he was because of his illness. 23 years difference is nothing. Age is only a number…it’s how you feel inside that counts. Good luck to you Gretchen. I will pray you find peace in your heart.

  • 153. lovesherea  |  February 18, 2009 at 3:26 pm

    Regardless of what anyone believes or feels about Gretchen and Jeff, cancer has won the battle over life once again. Perhaps the folks who are on this blog name-calling and judging, can use some of their energy to work toward cancer cures and better treatments.

    Gretchen, I hope you hold dear the memories of Jeff. Live an even bigger life than you had with him…that’s the best revenge against haters!

  • 154. CF  |  February 18, 2009 at 3:41 pm

    Hi everyone, this is my first time that I have ever posted a blog… but I weas really touched by the final episode of the OC housewives. I just wish that people would stop being so mean to others….and grow up. My heart goes out to Gretchen and I hope that people will support her during this time of loss. I sincerly wish that people could respect her boundaries I also sincerly believe that the other houseviews are insanely jealous and snippy shallow women with a lack of self confidence. Seriously, you are better without shallow friends.

  • 155. carmen  |  February 18, 2009 at 3:43 pm

    I actually watched all the ‘Housewives’ episodes this season, and saw a lot of actions on the by Gretchen I did not agree with – while her fiancee was ill, and hospitalized.

    My 44 year old husband has cancer, and I am his primary caretaker. I am 43. He has been ill for the past 8 months, and hospitalized for about 4 months throughout this period. While he was hospitalized I spent 12-14 hours each day with him – every single day. While at home, I went out occasionally to get groceries, run errands. I never even considered going out to lunch with girlfriends, let alone spend a few days out of state. I wanted to spend every moment possible with my husband so any opportunity to go out and have fun was passed up. I will get some “me” time when my husband gets better (he is getting better every day).

    It’s possible the editors of the program made it appear that Gretchen was out having fun – often; to me it sure seemed like she spent more time lunching, shopping, vacationing than she did with Jeff.

    I don’t want to judge Gretchen as I don’t know her and, like I said, the editors could have made it look like it did. BUT…I strongly believe if you truly love someone who is ill or hurting then nothing is more important than that person and you will WANT to spend as much time with them .

  • 156. Tori  |  February 18, 2009 at 4:00 pm

    I am sad Gretchen and Jeff will not be able to ride her new motorcycle. In the previous episode she looked so content along with Jeff with the wind in their hair. My condolences.

  • 157. Holly  |  February 18, 2009 at 4:14 pm

    Please accept my deepest condolences on the passing of Jeff. I truly believe that he loved you dearly and was very moved when he spoke of it and the terrible illness that kept him from loving you even more than he did. That Harley he gave you was beautiful and when you finally go out and ride it, remember that he will be with you by your side protecting you all the way. Stay strong and know that there are many viewers who are on your side and who believe in the love that you both shared. Ride hard girlfriend, be safe and keep the sunnyside up.

  • 158. Lana  |  February 18, 2009 at 4:31 pm

    I have watched every episode of the show, and I do not think that she is a gold digger and I think that after watching The Girls Next Door, it should not be hard for people to understand how a younger sexy woman can fall in love with an older man who loves her and wants to take care of her. What a sad loss.

  • 159. Aspen Girl  |  February 18, 2009 at 4:39 pm

    I was SO sad to hear that Jeff had passed on last night’s finale. Gretchen and Jeff seemed to truly love each other. I lived in Aspen, Colorado and i knew many many gold diggers. Gretchen seems NOTHING like them. I’m so proud of her for keeping “real” and give her big praise for taking care of a dying man. People handle stressful situations differently, the fact that she went to Big Bear during his illness may have been a HUGE release for her. I watched my dad die of cancer and was in the hospital day after day. When he lost his battle to cancer, I didn’t go to the funeral or the viewing. I went on a ski trip with my girlfriends. NOBODY has any right to judge Gretchen. If anything I could sense BIG TIME jealousy out of Tamra and Vicki is just an aging “pud”. This message is a wish for peace to Gretchen. Jeff will always be with her.

  • 160. Jesse  |  February 18, 2009 at 4:40 pm

    Gretchen, I think that you and Jeff had an amazing relationship. I am sorry to here about Jeff’s passing and know you have to be devastated. Just hang in there. You have a lot of fans, from everywhere. I hope there will be another season of housewives with you on it! I think Tamara and Vicki were just jealous of your beauty and your spirit that lightens any room. Take care and much love.

  • 161. Kasi  |  February 18, 2009 at 5:14 pm

    Gretchen, I watched the season finale last night and couldn’t get my mind off of you. I am so sorry for your loss. I know it has to be the hardest thing you will ever go through and wanted you to know you are in my heart. You did a wonderful thing for Jeff and you are paying it forward 🙂

  • 162. Christy  |  February 18, 2009 at 5:36 pm

    Just one response to all the people who think she didn’t love him, who think she’s a gold-digger and that she wasn’t real……. should you judge her, judge her through HIS children’s eyes. They loved her, they appreciated her taking care of their father, and they told her to take some time off for herself because of the stress she had been under. Again, should you judge this situation, judge it through his children’s eyes and not your own.

  • 163. mason  |  February 18, 2009 at 5:52 pm

    I am a black female 42 and have loved the show. Gretchen and Gina seemed to be the more down to earth people. At the end of the show last night I sat straight up in bed when I heard Jeff passed. When I came into work this morning we were al talking about it and we all feel that Gretchen is young and down to earth. Girl you keep your head up and continue to be who you are!!!
    Our prayers go out to you and Jeff’s children.

    From Virginia

  • 164. CMB  |  February 18, 2009 at 6:10 pm

    I wish Gretchen all the best!!!! It doesn’t matter what anyone thinks of her relationship with Jeff, she made him happy and that’s all that matters! Best wishes to her always!

  • 165. Mer  |  February 18, 2009 at 6:28 pm

    Do not pass judgement until you are in the shoes of taking care of someone with an illness its not easy to watch the ones you love suffer

  • 166. Biancas  |  February 18, 2009 at 6:30 pm

    I was so shocked when I saw the season finale to find out that Jeff has passed. I really wish Gretchen and the surviving family the best. I know a lot of people may have bad things to say about Gretchen but we dont know her, only how tv portrayed her to be. She seems to have a big heart and is very misunderstood because of her beauty. Let the haters keep hating because regardless of what others think she is going to strive and live happy.

  • 167. Brandi  |  February 18, 2009 at 6:45 pm


    My deepest sympathies are being sent to you. I think very highly of you and I know that all members of Jeff’s family are very thankful that he such a sweet person in his life during the illness. You helped keep a smile on his face even in his darkest hours. God puts special people in charge of that role and he picked a winner in choosing Jeff’s angel.

    Always remember to NOT listen to the harsh comments that people throw your way – you did the right thing by loving Jeff!

    Keep your chin up – stay strong – this has helped you become a stronger woman!

    By far – you are my fave from the show…Jeanna is next in line….the others…..may need your help in maintaining their smiles! May everyone learn from your optimism!

  • 168. Stacy  |  February 18, 2009 at 6:56 pm

    I cannot believe how heartless some of you are being! Didn’t your mothers ever teach you not to judge? How about tolerance? Ever hear of that one? One person would spend every waking moment by their loved one’s bedside. Another would need to take a break and do something to take their mind off the HARD WORK it is to care for someone ill. Who are you to decide which one is right? Gretchen was honest, forthcoming and never did anything wrong by falling in love with Jeff. Believe me, it was not all fun & games for her and so what if he bought her lovely things? He could afford to and that’s just what you do when you love someone. You people need to see her for who she really is…a kind, funny, beautiful, lovely woman who brought true love and joy to Jeff right up to his last days. Sorry Jeff didn’t include you in his will, which is the real problem here. You people are so focussed on where his money went that you completely missed the real relationship going on before our eyes. My condolences on your loss Gretchen. I pray you find love and happiness again one day. Just ignore all the hateful comments. I think you’re an absolute gem for being there for Jeff.

  • 169. Anonymous  |  February 18, 2009 at 7:14 pm

    I am so sorry to hear about jeff passing away. My heart, and prayers go out to Gretchen, and jeff’s family. I lost my father to cancer two years ago, i was only twenty nine years old. My dad was my best friend, and i could see that jeff was a great dad to his children. It will be a long hard journey for all of his kids, however he is at peace now. I wish Gretchen all the best.

  • 170. Audrey  |  February 18, 2009 at 7:18 pm

    I really like Gretchen. And I dont know if she is a goldigger or not. But I think that all that matters is that she made Jeff happy, and that she stood by his side. And caring for someone that was as sick as Jeff takes a lot of work, and dedication. Which gretchen had, and showed!!!

  • 171. Gina  |  February 18, 2009 at 7:22 pm

    This message is to Gretchen, I have been watching Orange County Housewives for a while now. I think you are a great inspiration to the show, I love watching you….and laughing at the little things in life. You are a very beautiful person inside and out and I wish you the best, and sorry for your loss.

    Chicago, Illinois

  • 172. Debbie  |  February 18, 2009 at 7:37 pm


    Now matter what people have to say about you or your intentions with Jeff, YOU KNOW THE TRUTH!!! If you can put your head on your pillow at night and sleep with a clear conscience, then your intentions with Jeff were honorable. Don’t listen to anyone opinions but your own.You need to live with yourself……

    And for Tamra??? It is VERY obvious to me you have given her a run for her beauty….She nominated herself as the hottest housewife of OC (how insecure

    Always remember jealousy is the biggest sign of flattery……

    Sorry for your loss and may you find comfort and happiness in years to come

  • 173. tia  |  February 18, 2009 at 8:04 pm

    gretchen, i love your show and I’m deeply sorry for the loss of jeff! you are an amazing woman who i admire for never giving up! and for tamara to judge you is completely wrong! only god can judge yuo sweetheart! Jeff is watching over you and smiling! you and jeana are my favorite of the show you guys are so real and mature and you dont play the childish games like tamara and vicki do

  • 174. bre hannafin  |  February 18, 2009 at 8:32 pm

    im so sorry about jeff. you two really seemed like you were in love and you two were really ment for eachother. im very sorry to hear that jeff lost his battle to cancer. i had a brother die from the same type of cancer jeff had. i am truly sorry for your loss. just remember all the good times you had together and know that jeff is always with you and looking out for you just as my borther is for me.

  • 175. pebbles  |  February 18, 2009 at 8:35 pm

    goodness gracious everyone! yes it’s sad that Jeff passed, but apparently through the whole filming of the series, Gretchen has had a boyfriend – and it wasn’t Jeff. Some other guy with whom she was working to secure a tv show for her. You reap what you sow, girl. And karma can be a (ahem, problem…)

  • 176. Debbie  |  February 18, 2009 at 9:11 pm

    I to have watched every episode of OC, and Gretchen added a breath of fresh air to the show. I am very sorry for her loss. Jeff truely loved Gretchen and I know she will miss him dearly. I was very touched when he wrote her that letter. I wish Gretchen the very best and I hope to see her next season. God bless you.

  • 177. Rita  |  February 18, 2009 at 9:38 pm

    I am reading viewers comments, and can’t believe how jealous and mean people are. This poor girl Gretchen cared for this man. until the end. I am sure he appreciated it. All I can say is, Gretchen, I hope the best for you and may Jeffrey rest in peace. I hope he compensated you for all your kindness. Sincerely, Rita

  • 178. Janee  |  February 18, 2009 at 10:08 pm

    i don’t think that Gretchen was a gold digger because if she was she would have just took all of his money never came to the hospital with or even be nice to his kids and i don’t think that she would have dated a store manager or should i say i broke man becuse who wants one any way but she would not even let the kids come to the house and be with him if she was that much of a gold digger but i say this Gretchen u keep doing what ur doing and live your life jeff’s in a better place and i’am pretty sure that his kids will be tooken care of so to gretchen i don’t know u but i know jeff did and god will take care of you and satisify all ur needs and keep ur head up ♥♥♥LOVE♥♥♥♥YA!♥♥♥♥

  • 179. Tenia  |  February 18, 2009 at 10:14 pm

    To Gretchen gretchen i know and can not amagine how hard it is to loose a loved one my prayers are with u but don’t worry because god will handle every situation and turn good into bad so i just say to keep ya head up and serouisly DO NOT WORRY ABOUT THESE HATERS lying saying ur a gold differ jeff’s in a better place now and i know he’s watchinig over u and the kids so keep ya head up babe doll

  • 180. Sarrra  |  February 18, 2009 at 10:18 pm

    Gretchen is probably the most sincere person on real housewives of orange county, although many thought she was a gold digger just because she is a blonde bombshell thats ridiculous that people claim that she is using jeff when your being so ridiculous by judging her, anyways shes my favorite and vicki, and tamara are jealous !
    enough sad

    god blesss.

  • 181. kathy  |  February 18, 2009 at 10:34 pm

    Gretchen, I too would like to offer my condolences. I didn’t know Jeff had died until last nites episode. I lost my dad to cancer last April. He was like your Jeff, he was ready to go but hated to leave his family and loved ones behind. my heart goes out to you and Jeff’s family and all of those who loved him.
    they tell me time heals. I find that some days I am still mad inside that Dad is not with us anymore. somedays are harder than others. grief is a process. I think it is called that because it takes so long to Process all of our feelings.
    give yourself time to feel and to grieve but also remember, you have to live also. let your friends and family know when you need a little extra support. sometimes you will just want to be left alone. other times , you will feel like everyone has left you. it is a hard thing to go through.
    my thoughts and prayers are with you all.

  • 182. Darlene  |  February 18, 2009 at 10:42 pm

    Thats very sad news.. I feel so badly for his KIDS.. AFter seeing the show I dont feel bad for Gretchen… She showed nothing but it was all about her, money and Being rich.. This is just too bad.

  • 183. Christopher  |  February 18, 2009 at 11:16 pm

    Gretchen, I was very sorry to hear last night of your loss.
    I am just as sorry to hear the catty comments from Tara, she needs go grow up or return to the trailor park she came from.
    I feel that you stuck by your man and supported and loved him and it was clear he too loved you. Dont let those idiots who claim your a gold digger bother you.. they can get over it.
    Again sorry for your terrible loss
    My thoughts are with you, and hope to see you back on the show next year!

  • 184. Krissie  |  February 18, 2009 at 11:42 pm

    I am terribly sorry for your loss. I have been a fan of the show since it first aired. Last night on the season finale, I felt as though I lost a family member when Jenna revealed Jeff had lost his battle. You are in my thoughts. Also, dont worry what the other women say (Vicky & Tamra) I think they are just jealous!!!

  • 185. Susan Jenson  |  February 19, 2009 at 12:00 am

    Gretchen, I am so sorry for your loss. your are my favorite, stay away from vicki and tamara- they are not good friends- hope things get better for you

  • 186. brian bustis  |  February 19, 2009 at 12:05 am

    I want to send a big hug and kiss for Gretchen I really enjoyed her on this season of the OC housewifes.Age defines nothing and means nothing if true love is involed.I am a 33 year old man watching this show and am no golddigger and niether is Gretchen.I applauded her resistance to lay claim to his fourtune when Vicki and Jeana were pressing her to.I hope that vipor Tamara feels like the dirtbag she is for her nasty behavior and teenage jealously she displayed towards Gretchen,shame shame on her karma is a real thing and I hope know one feels for her when something in her life goes south.God bless you Gretchen

  • 187. Leanne  |  February 19, 2009 at 12:34 am

    My deepest sympathy goes out to you, your family and Jeff’s kids. May the memories keep him close to you forever and heal you through this difficult time.

  • 188. Rushiing  |  February 19, 2009 at 1:29 am

    I am very sorry to hear Jeff passed. Jeff knew what he was doing and so did Gretchen. Everyone gets into relationships to get their needs met and that is what they got. Women should get with a man for security. Gretchen had been married before and knew how to appreciate a man, no matter how old he was, tthat could take care of business. She is hot and can do that. Not many women can find a man, no matter what age they are, that is financial stable and will to take care of them. I hope for the best for Gretchen and that a GREAT man comes along as fabulous as Jeff was.

  • 189. lauraj  |  February 19, 2009 at 1:55 am

    You were just waiting for him to breathe his last breathe? You have already shacked up with a “guy” friend, he’s living in your house! For all of you that got angry about Jeana and Vicki’s consults about $…here it is she is a gold digging moneygrubbing +hore!

  • 190. Leann  |  February 19, 2009 at 2:40 am

    I wish you the best. Everybody who watched season 4 can see you really loved Jeff. Don’t listen to what those women say about you and stay strong.

  • 191. Lori  |  February 19, 2009 at 3:15 am

    If it walks like a duck, quacks like, acts like a duck then it’s a duck. When I started watching the show, I figured out the “gold digger” right away and that gold digger was Gretchen. I’m sorry but when you truly love someone, you are not going to go on vactions at all. I felt sorry for Jeff and may he rest in peace. When he got out of the hospital, Gretchen stayed with him for what maybe 5 minutes before she took off with the other housewives to Las Vegas? I would have told the other housewives “I’m sorry but I need to be with my fiance and spend quality time with him now that he is out of the hospital.” Vegas isn’t going anywhere but Gretchen definitely showed where her priorities were. Who parties while their fiance is suffering from a terminal illness? And by the way, Tamra was my favorite house wife.

  • 192. Slibanez  |  February 19, 2009 at 3:16 am

    I really like Gretchen. At first I thought she was a gold digger but I came to realize as the episodes went on, that he was probably using her equally. She truly seemed like a very nice person to me. Jeff, God rest his soul, knew the deal! He was on his 5th wife! She went out of her way to spend a lot of time with him. Lets ask the question…would he have been at her bedside in a reverse situation or would he be possibly with another young hottie? After all, Gretchen wouldnt have looked so good if she was sick and she wouldnt have money to support him! Im not so sure Jeff would have been there for Gretchen as much as she was for him if it was the other way around!! She is a fun loving gal and although I like Tamra too, she definately seems jealous!!!!

  • 193. Rhonda  |  February 19, 2009 at 4:08 am

    My heart goes out to Gretchen. I just discovered today after doing a Google search on her that Jeff had passed away. In the episode where Jeff is back home eating dinner with Gretchen and his children you can clearly see by his eyes that he adored her. He doesn’t take his eyes off of her. He was lucky to have had such a beautiful woman who obviously loved him.

  • 194. Slibanez  |  February 19, 2009 at 4:57 am

    I’d like to add how infuriating it is to watch Vicky and Tamra belittling Gretchen. They are so obviously jealous of her beauty and happy nature. Vicky is walking around “throwing her husband under the bus” and flawnting her watch she bought for herself while Tamra is clearly jealous because she didnt get a Harley. I truly think Gretchen is a sincere person and bought them all gifts but the spoiled girls take it as a bad thing! God bless you Gretchen for putting up with those women who think they are righteous and they SOOO arent.

  • 195. Chris  |  February 19, 2009 at 5:00 am

    Gretchen So Sorry for your Loss. My husband and I are 27 yrs apart in age. He is not a wealty man in money, But in Humor and the way he treats me like a Oueen. He believes every women should be treated with the utmost respect . Alot of people don’t get it, when it comes to age and thats ok.

  • 196. Kim  |  February 19, 2009 at 5:16 am

    I hope Gretchen can not take seriously some of these posts that are dis-heartening, and so awful to her, Jeff and thier family. Fact is people, WE dont know them personally. It is a show. We dont know the first thing about what they went through on a daily basis. The cameras show fun, dining out, and all of that because that is what the show is for. Watch past seasons. It is unfortunate that Gretchen and his children have to suffer through this loss, and endure harsh comments. They have enough on thier plate. Whatever the level of thier love, it is NONE of our business. Thier family had a loss and no matter what, that should be respected. Gretchen, BIG hugs to you and those children.
    Warm wishes♥

  • 197. Jenna  |  February 19, 2009 at 5:31 am

    Gretchen seems like a nice girl and very fun. In the opening of the season, each housewife has her own quote. Gretchen’s is…”I love the bling, and the jewlery, I love it all”. Natural laws of attraction are always there. If she spends all that time getting ready, looks are very important to her. Therefore, she was not attracted to Jeff. I do think they each served each other’s purpose and I do believe that she probably did love him (as a friend). He got to be with a hot girl, and she got money. There are different reasons why people attract each other and love grows from that. I was just sad she did the show instead of being with him. Laurie was pretty classy; she stopped filming when her son was having problems. Gretchen continued to do her thing regardless of him being in the hospital. It’s wrong for us to judge and wrong for us to even be concerned about this issue; however, that’s my take on it. I wish her well and I just hope now that the show has given her independence, she will marry next time for true love.

  • 198. patricia  |  February 19, 2009 at 5:48 am

    Gretchen, I’m sorry on your loss about Jeff. During the whole season I saw the sparkle in his eyes when he looked at you. Live your life and watch your back where Vicki and especially Tamra are concerned. As for Tamra she needs to get that son underhand and teach him ettiquet and manners. She just is jealousand so is Vicki. You need to steer clear of them.’.Tamra needs an attitude adjustment, and Vicki needs one too and a damn good dermatologist. She and Tamra need al large helping of humble pie to wash down all that crow they are going to be fed in the future. Live your life’.

  • 199. kenna  |  February 19, 2009 at 6:02 am

    i actually liked Gretchen. I think she seemed pretty up front. i think lynn was ok also. Vicki is probably the rudest housewife and tamara is just an old dried up bitter *****. If she is the hottest housewife, why does she wear a cover up at the pool. Standing next to gretchen she looks horrible. If gretchen is a gold digger then what does that make vcki’s hsuband don? Does he even have a job. She has to buy herself presents b/c her husband can’t.

  • 200. shelley  |  February 19, 2009 at 7:13 am

    Just wanted to say that this really hits home with my mom’s date of dying of cancer was 4 days shy of a yr when this episode aired.I feel deeply for Gretchen, and Bravo did a great job showing her love for Jeff, instead of making her look like a gold digger, which Vicki perceived. Caring for someone with cancer takes a toll on you, and she made no mistakes going out, she needed it. Now, to keep Jeff in her heart and his memory alive, she needs to do things he never did, or wanted to do with her, and make it a dedication to him when she does it. Hopefully the other housewives will stand by her side and help her fulfill this.

  • 201. Slibanez  |  February 19, 2009 at 7:35 am

    Why does it say Im posting at 4:57am?? Its not even midnight here in No. Cal! AND I posted that about three hours ago!!

  • 202. Cher  |  February 19, 2009 at 7:53 am

    So Gretchen’s a gold digger and Jeff wanted to show her off and spoil her–who cares? I think they both got what they wanted from each other and when he was sick she did care enough to take care of him. I believe there were feelings between the two of them that were more than superficial. All of these women are so hung up on $$$ and are so far out of touch with the real world it’s pathetic. Family and health are so much more important than material things, as well as the simple beauty around us every day that these women never seem to see because they’re too blinded by their bling.

  • 203. Marie  |  February 19, 2009 at 9:38 am

    I watched the show today and just learned of Jeff’s passing. I was saddened by this and my heart goes out to Gretchen. After all this part of the show was all to real and not part of any theatrics for ratings.

    What is also sad is how petty, nasty and judgemental many of these posts are! I am a single mom of teenagers, living with a painful illness (alone with no one’s support like Gretchen gave to Jeff) so I am by no standards “a person who must be a gold digger” if I like Gretchen.

    Yes, she is very pretty and outgoing on the exterior…but no one has the right to judge what is in her heart and soul, or anyone else’s for that matter! If you paid attention to your own integrity as you are trying to mind others around you (and on TV shows too…do you know how small minded that makes you?) the world would be a much more loving and pleasant place!

    Wake up!

  • 204. scsgreat  |  February 19, 2009 at 3:07 pm

    Did she get any money after he died?

  • 205. Speechless  |  February 19, 2009 at 3:22 pm

    This is my first time posting to a blog and I am only doing it bc I cannot believe how petty, childish and downright mean some of these negative comments are. To all of you who call Gretchen a gold digger: Do you know her? Do you know Jeff? Why are you commenting? Does it make you feel better about yourself?

    I just find it ridiculous to judge someone you don’t even know. The bottom line is that Jeff died and it is very sad for anyone who knew and loved him. It is also sad for those who watched the show and were cheering him on through his battle. The bottom line is that he was a huge part of her life and I am sure she is devastated and deserves our sympathy. I am sorry for your loss Gretchen and I hope that you feel a little better every day. My thoughts are with you.

  • 206. GLENDA BLACKBURN  |  February 19, 2009 at 5:00 pm


  • 207. I love you Gretchen...  |  February 19, 2009 at 5:28 pm

    GOD bless you Gretchen. Stay strong. I didn’t want to like you, but I love you. I hope you can get through your loss with dignity. Just remember all the good things you and Jeff shared. Don’t let those jealous women bring you down. I wish you well in the future, and I hope you find love again some day. — Julia A of Clinton, MD

  • 208. dawn  |  February 19, 2009 at 6:33 pm

    I was sorry to hear about Jeff’s death. I know that it was very devistating to you and his family. My thoughts are with you as you try to deal with your’e loss. Maybe time will help heal your’e broken heart. Just know that he loved you very much and you the same.
    God be with you
    your’e devoted fan

  • 209. Beverly  |  February 19, 2009 at 7:06 pm

    We were so sorry to hear that Jeff had lost his battle with cancer. It was so obvious that the two of you loved each other very much. We wish you the best.

  • 210. his_eyecandy  |  February 19, 2009 at 9:19 pm

    I’d like to say as a young woman who has/is dating a older rich man, and is treated very well the 600,000 home in my name the new benz in my name and can go and shop in the best of stores as well as donate money to help others and countinue my education all because of a middle aged man who has money, and finds me attractive and chose me to hang by his side, is okay with me. I learned along time ago that you get out of any relationshio what you put into it and to all of the Gretchens in this world hold your head up high,because we all know if the fat, broke,old bags writing all the nasty comments about people like us could do what we do they’d trade it all in a heart beat, none of them will admit it but it is so very true. last word again ladies it is just a tv show(entertainment purposes only) that is edited for rating’s and, no we don’t see the bad and yes i do know for a fact. My best friend is a housewife of Atlanta and i know that they edit and cut the scenes that make them appear as though they have a heart.

  • 211. kp  |  February 19, 2009 at 9:30 pm

    omg huggs and kisses to yah you rock

  • 212. Nichole  |  February 19, 2009 at 10:47 pm

    First of all i would like to my heart goes out to Gretchen and Jeff’s children. I just founded out he died Feb. 18, 2009.I just have to say this, when I first saw Gretchen with Jeff I was like it’s all about the money, but it appeared to me she really did care about him… Personally I don’t think there is anything wrong with a man spoiling and taking care of his women if he choose to. I have to say this Vicki and Tamyra are so jealous of Gretchen. Get a life and stop hating on the woman because her man didn’t mind buying her things.

  • 213. megan from corpus christi,tx  |  February 19, 2009 at 10:50 pm

    I am so sorry for the loss of Jeff.May God be with you and his family though the rough times. I had a question about the dresses you wore on the show,you had a striped spaghetti strapped dress on one of the episodes and i would like to know where I could purchase one. I absolutely loved it and must have one.

  • 214. Karla Guarino  |  February 19, 2009 at 11:47 pm

    I lost my father to cancer he was only 50 and I feel real sorrow for Gretchen. It is her and Jeff’s business what their relationship was and no matter what, he wanted her to be part of his life. I cried when I found out he passed away, I was really pulling for him, even though I hardly knew him. I have been sick myself since the age of 12 and I have had 18 surgeries and to be sick its terrible and it just goes to show you money cannot buy you everything. So my prayers and thoughts are with you Gretchen and Jeff’s family. Take Care.

  • 215. Pretty Lady  |  February 20, 2009 at 1:16 am

    I saw the show and I give you all my respect because you was just you… All the other girls in the show were fake to you and you need true friends.. You are not a gold digger fuck all those bitches they were just mad that you were the most pretty girl in the show.. You keep your head up and fuck what the other people say.. God is always with you and Jeff will always be with you…take care wish some day to meet you GOD BLESS YOU ALWAYS

  • 216. Chris  |  February 20, 2009 at 1:29 am

    Here’s my take on the wives of the O.C., New York, and Atlanta. I wouldn’t befriend any of you, quite frankly I would be embarrassed to be a member of your circles. You all seem to think that you are above everyone else because you “supposedly” have money. It has been my experience that people such as yourselves are usually so far in debt that you’ll never get out. You have poor personalities, poor relationships, your egotistical, arrogant, emotionless, and stupid. I hope you lose everything you own and are forced to work to work for places like Walmart, Waffle House, and Kmart. You are all boring and tasteless and an embarassment to the human race. I’ll be gald when these shows disappear and these hags are put in nursing homes. In addition, I have one question, are any of you actually human?

  • 217. Theresa  |  February 20, 2009 at 2:27 am

    My heart goes out to you Gretchen. It was obvious that you and Jeff really loved each other.
    You made his last days wonderfull

  • 218. Shannon  |  February 20, 2009 at 2:56 am

    I just want to say if you ever do get this, you are a wonderful woman and I love everything about you. Im so sorry about jeff and forget what everyone esle says. that is what is so special about you you don’t care what other ppl think. Its a good quality. YOUR STORY TOUCHED MY LIFE, and on the last season when i heard about his passing I cried. Im deeply touched for you

  • 219. sadness  |  February 20, 2009 at 5:50 am

    first of all, obviously Jeff enjoyed having gretchen in his life. She was there for him when he was ill, and was very caring to him and his children. Noone will ever know what the real intentions were But all anyone wants in life is Love and happiness, so thats what she gave to Jeff. whats the problem. And im sure Jeff had a will saying if Gretchen got any of his money or not. Anyone with money like that would obviously have a will in case of their death. I hope he did leave Gretchen a whole bunch of money. She showed him love, she took care of him, and made him happy. She did everything you do in a marriage , and she wasnt even married to the man..I think she totally deserves the money..GO GRETCHEN LUV YOU and bye the way I cannot stand Tammara or Vicki lol

  • 220. Really?  |  February 20, 2009 at 9:41 am

    Story on Gretchen in National enquirer.


    Story on Gretchen in Daily News.


  • 221. Christie  |  February 20, 2009 at 4:30 pm

    You are my favorite housewife.You have incredible courage and a great demeanor about yourself and during Jeff’s struggles. I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you don’t take to heart too much what the other wives said. They cannot understand what you went through. I hope you are doing well. Enjoy your Harley!!!

  • 222. Amy  |  February 20, 2009 at 4:42 pm

    Just heard about Jeff’s passing. I saw the finale of Housewives this past week. Gretchen is one of the few “real” people on that show. It made me sick to see how Tamara and Vickie were so hateful behind her back. Not on just this show but I think on every show. Anyone that acts like that is just plain jealous. Gretchen was never hateful to any of them and believe me she should of been. Your a great person Gretchen and I wish the best for you. You deserve it!!!

  • 223. Alexandra  |  February 20, 2009 at 6:17 pm

    Thoughts are with Gretchen and Jeff’s family. No matter what anyone has said about your relationship, the love that you felt for one another truly shined through from the show.

  • 224. runwithwind  |  February 20, 2009 at 6:23 pm

    Well Gretchen,
    The cat’s out of the bag now. National press releases have you living with Jay Photoglou all the while you were supposedly dating Jeff. Additionally, the Harley you got at the season finale wasn’t a gift at all but a product placement from a local Orange County Harley Dealership. The motorcycle wasn’t even registered, had no tags and it has since been returned to the respective dealership. The ring you wore during the show was a cubic zirconia and on the Bravo Reunion you’ll be called out on it again. Your ex husband Chris says hi.

  • 225. Misty  |  February 20, 2009 at 6:28 pm

    Everyone who is saying negative things about Gretchen and/or the death of Jeff are simply just not happy with their own lives. How dare some of you say horrible things about someone who has passed away? What if that were your dad, grandparent, or husband? You should all thank your lucky stars YOU don’t have cancer…and if any of you do…God bless you and keep you well. My father has metastatic malignant melanoma and has been given 12-18 months to live. People, life is way too short for you guys to be judging others. Not to mention, isn’t that someone else’s job anyway? Like maybe…oh I don’t know…GOD? And that is all you’re doing is judging…keep your “opinion” speech to yourself…that’s is CRAP and you know it. For the 21-year-old (haha is her username) who spoke of the other things we should be making comments about from the show…WOW! You are so right! What about the underage drinking and smoking of Lynne’s daughters that was CAUGHT ON TAPE? She flat out lets them do it in their own home…and her daughters’ friends as well. There is a husband and wife here in Oklahoma being charged with MANSLAUGHTER because their son had a party at their house and they supplied the alcohol…one of the boys’ friends left with his girlfriend and ended up in a car wreck that killed the girlfriend. Talk about irresponsible adults. Lynne should check herself and tighten the reins on her daughters or she just might wind up in the Orange County Jail instead of her nice million dollar home…wonder if they would let her make those high-priced bracelets from prison?

  • 226. Misty  |  February 20, 2009 at 6:33 pm

    This comment is for Gretchen…

    You don’t need to pay any attention to what these JEALOUS (yep, I went there!) people say about you. If anyone has any sense, they would have seen the love in your eyes when you looked at Jeff. They would have seen the heartbreak every time Jeff was in the hospital. I am a God-fearing southern female and I know what you two had was real. Screw the ignorant who have never known love themselves. You are beautiful inside and out. Keep your chin up and know that Jeff is now taking care of YOU.

  • 227. Teresa  |  February 20, 2009 at 7:09 pm

    I was very sad and hearbroken for Gretchen to have loved and lost at such an early age. She appears to want to please everyone and the group of ladies (except for Geana) seem to want to talk bad and hope for bad to happen. I love Gretchen and I do not even personally know her. She is in my heart and I hope to see her on the next season. God’s Blessings to her.

  • 228. mary  |  February 20, 2009 at 7:40 pm

    Why do people want to trash talk Gretchen so badly. She made Jeff really happy and helped him through the worst period in his life. Don’t judge her. Jeff didn’t, and he was the one involved with her. You could see in his eyes how happy she made him.

  • 229. Jules  |  February 20, 2009 at 9:38 pm


    I also don’t know if you’ll ever read this…I am so sorry that Jeff is gone. You two were so cute and wonderful together. Bless all of you!

    I am also sorry that people like Tamra and Vikki are the way they are to you. You do not deserve it and in the long run their Karma will get them! From the looks of public opinion it already is.

    Stay beautiful inside and out Gretchen and thank you for letting us be a part of your life.

  • 230. antonita  |  February 21, 2009 at 12:06 am

    u see a lot of greed, jealousy, envy, nasty spoiled bratty kids (jeanna’s kids),and bragging housewives that are so superficial. how can their husbands stand them. gretchen is very prettty as is the other housewives. I am sorry about Jeff, even if he wasn’t a good person, but the show is entertaining and I love watching all of them. actually I wish I looked like Gretchen or Tamra. my head would probably be a little big too. Anyway it is a good show so all you housewives just keep on being you.

  • 231. Sue Ellen  |  February 21, 2009 at 1:15 am


    We all know you’re really Gretchen Rossi.

  • 232. krr  |  February 21, 2009 at 5:18 am

    i wish everyone would stop judging her… my father died of cancer, it is a horrible and long thing to go thru… my now step mother took care of him when i wasn’t able to be there and that is what he needed, just great support!!!!!!!!!!!!! She wasn’t there for the money but there to help him out when my sister and i couldn’t be…it takes a lot of work to go thru this… no one would understand unless you’ve been in this situation yourselves!!!!!!!!! we will have our thoughts and prayers with you:) gretchen keep strong!

  • 233. frank  |  February 21, 2009 at 7:13 am

    Here i am trying to make ends meet while times are tough on me seeing how I just went through 3 back surguries and the economy stinks. Its so nice to see that a person can buy Coach coin (like they really use pennys not credit) purses for her back-stabbing friends while I have an empty $3 wallet from walgreens,and not have a care in the world about cost. These bimbos are eating expensive foods, buying outrageous items and acting like money is easy to come by with no thoughts to the struggling people that can barely afford cable to watch how shallow they really are. I guess money really cant buy love by the way they act. I can tell most of you that your hubbys didn’t marry you all for your brains.

    P.S. Hey Gretch, did you get your WELL DESERVED money from Jeff (God rest his family and soul)

  • 234. frank  |  February 21, 2009 at 7:18 am

    Hey housewives,
    can I borrow a couple bucks for my back surguries

  • 235. Grace  |  February 21, 2009 at 8:47 am

    I liked Gretchen up until I saw her at Tamra’s party. Her behavior was disgusting and uncalled for. Ten bucks said she called that ugly little jerk Ryan after and sucked his c*** and had sex with him. She was a nasty woman who was out for money. I am sorry but if my husband/boyfriend whatever wad DYING I would spend every second with him. But, why would she sit in a Hospital bed doing that “job” when she could get drunk and flirt with her friend’s 23 year old son, right?

  • 236. Sue Ellen  |  February 21, 2009 at 10:22 pm

    I don’t understand why all of you insist that Gretchen took care of Jeff during his illness. I never saw one scene of her “taking care” of him. There was one scene where a male nurse was at the house showing Gretchen how to put “food” in Jeff’s IV, and she said that she couldn’t do it.

    I don’t believe she ever “took care” of him. AlI I ever saw her doing was getting plastered, partying, whining about his illness, and shopping.

    It was all a publicity stunt to get her and him on TV.

  • 237. Brittany  |  February 22, 2009 at 12:49 am

    i love Gretchen! i think she has a huge heart. it would take alot to put your life on hold for a year! i hope all is well and you find peace with knowing that there are lots of people who have your back!

  • 238. Jaime  |  February 22, 2009 at 1:58 am

    I think its so funny how people take all this crap so seriously! Its a reality tv show about a bunch of women with alot of money! If Gretchen wasn’t who she was she would SO not be on the show. My guess is all of them are gold diggers in some way. I think gretchen is adorable and funny and full of life. Her laugh cracks me up! I can’t stand vickie…she is such a phony! I am not sure what form of crack Lynn is on…Love Jeana and Lauri….Can’t stand Tamera…that girl thinks the world revolves around her….I love hearing her talk about how everyone copies her! Too funny! I love this show!!! Hope it comes back soon!

  • 239. Heather  |  February 22, 2009 at 3:39 am

    Your ex husband Chris (as well as some others) sounds like a bitter, jealous person. He needs to get a life and move on. Don’t worry about the haters and hold your head high. People try to tear down others when they are unhappy with themselves. You are too good to let what they say get to you.

  • 240. katherine  |  February 22, 2009 at 6:08 am

    Gretchen…I was heartbroken to hear about Jeff. You are in my thoughts and prayers during this hard time. I know what it is like to love an older man….I used to see someone who was 24 years older than me, and he was caring and unbelievably generous. I believe it is our fate to love, no matter who the person is, what the age, or the circumstances. I admire you for being so open with your relationship on TV…people can learn a lot form that….and the most important being to NOT JUDGE. No one understands your unique relationship but you. Stay strong. You are loved by many.

  • 241. lisa  |  February 22, 2009 at 12:12 pm

    I am so sorry for Gretchen loss. I personally think they had a wonderful love together. It was apperent on how much his kids loved her. Kids are usually a better judge of people, especially someone dating thier father. And they loved her. She was with him long before he got sick and stayed. We see lil bits and pieces from the show. But it was said she was at the hospial all the time and since they didnt film in the hospital, you only saw her away with her friends.

    It says so much when people can only try and see the negitive. Not everyone in life is shady. Wouldnt it be nice to assume the best about somebody, instead of jumping to the worst.

    Im a half full kind a woman!!! Life is alot less uglier that way! =)

  • 242. AMY  |  February 22, 2009 at 9:18 pm

    Grethen I was very saddened by the passing of Jeff. It was obvious you two had that special kind of love that would take you anywhere. I hope that you are finding peace and family to help you in the time of grief and that his children are as well. I hope to see you next season but if not I very much understand. I hope that you take care and keep positive. He loved you and it was easily seen and also easily seen you loved him as well.

    Good Luck in the future.

  • 243. cascimel  |  February 22, 2009 at 10:32 pm

    This is just a show. I like Gretchen, and no, I would never be out partying while anyone, no matter who, was dying. I cannot stand Tamara, she came from nothing and still acts that way, even if she does not know it. I do not like Vickie, she bores me.
    But I watch the show and think it much better than the Housewives of NY.

  • 244. Marie  |  February 23, 2009 at 1:19 am

    Gretchen, I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I lost my dad to cancer on the 19th of september this year… and I know how hard it is to watch a loved one go through something so terrible. I also can relate to the difficulties in caring for someone so close to us and still trying to find the joys in life. I know for a fact that my dad would have wanted for me to enjoy myself and not to be sad. I am sure that Jeff felt the same way. Dont feel badly about it… we do everything that we can when we can. Its never easy….

    Good luck with everything, and I wish you well.

  • 245. Melissa  |  February 23, 2009 at 3:42 am

    Age doesn’t matter Love is Love!!! And you would have to be a idiot to think that Gretchen didn’t love him! You could tell by the look in her eyes! I feel really sad about his passing and wish her the best of luck she is a strong role model!! and she should be proud of herself! And to all the losers that say she is just after his money well they are just jealous and sad that they don’t amount and will never amount to anything. 😦 People with a heart like Gretchens don’t even get affected by your words so go get a job and leave her alone!

  • 246. GRETCHEN_LOSES_MEALTICKET  |  February 23, 2009 at 11:57 am


  • 247. Peggy  |  February 23, 2009 at 6:53 pm

    Gretchen, I am so sorry for you loss and I hope you are doing well. Best of luck, dear! You are beautiful on the inside and out!

  • 248. Eastsider  |  February 23, 2009 at 8:57 pm

    Just curious…. did Gretchen get any money from Jeff’s estate after he died? One of the shows this season had her playing dumb about whether or not she was in his will and the other housewives encouraged her to make sure she was taken care of. My thoughts and prayers go out to Jeff & his family… I hope she didn’t get a penny.

  • 249. Kambra  |  February 23, 2009 at 9:19 pm

    I send my sympathy to Gretchen… I don’t care what any of the other jealous housewives have to say, you are the hottest housewife… I’m curious to see what drama Tamara is bringing about at the reunion show, she’s old, washed out and envious of Gretchen. It irritates me that people pass judgment on her… Thats all…

  • 250. GITANA  |  February 23, 2009 at 9:19 pm


  • 251. Celeste  |  February 23, 2009 at 9:46 pm

    Gretchen ~ My children and I (16 & 11) are addicted to Real Housewives of the OC and have been since Season One. You are our all time FAVORITE Housewife! You come across as so genuine and fun. You are beautiful, smart, sassy, and you know not to take yourself so seriously! You remind me of so many of my wonderful friends! You are someone I would love to spend an evening with!

    We were devastated to hear of Jeff’s passing. We are so sorry. Even though you don’t know us; our thoughts and prayers are with you, your family, and Jeff’s children. May God Bless you and keep you!


    Celeste & Family

  • 252. R Williams  |  February 23, 2009 at 9:51 pm

    Hi Gretch, let me first offer my condolence to you. It’s obvious that Jeff and you had a great relationship. Only you can truly say what it was like- you were the one in the relationship. I pray that you find more happiness and true love. Remember that you should be so into God that a man should seek him first in order to find you. From experience that is the only way true love that last a lifetime happens. I am 42 and my hubby is 54. Early on in our relationship we got rude stares and comments. We’ve been together since 2002. In March we will have been married for 3yrs. We have two beautiful twins( a boy and girl) age 2. Some of the other housewives were rude when you weren’t around. Most of it was just jealousy. The way you handle situations like that is to always be yourself and make sure-absolutely sure you know who your true friends are. Money and power isn’t everything( these are temporary benefits). When you have to purchase things for yourself or think another person is competing with you- this must truly be a miserable way to live. Laugh, Live and love. Have a good heart and if you haven’t yet, try God! He’s well worth it and the benefits are eternal. God Bless. You are in my prayers RW

  • 253. Nancy in CT  |  February 24, 2009 at 1:48 am

    I won’t judge you. At the very least, I think you both had affection for each other and got what you both needed during the relationship. But now is the time to take from Jeff what he gave you from his heart when he was alive. Be a lady and NOT a gold digger by giving his children the rest.

  • 254. Dinah  |  February 24, 2009 at 1:56 am


    Was so sorry to hear of your fiancee’s death. The love and care you gave him was truly beautiful and, I am sure, gave him much comfort through his cancer battle.

    May you find continued warmth in his love for you and my wish for you is the strength to continue marching on in your own way.

    Best wishes and good luck!

  • 255. KT Did  |  February 24, 2009 at 2:39 am

    Gretchen, if you want to learn how to ride that Harley, I will teach you! Jeff would have wanted you to continue.

  • 256. Maria  |  February 24, 2009 at 3:23 am

    My friend and I were just talking about how out of all the Housewives in the O.C., Gretchen is our favorite. She is the least mean of any of the wives and has a good heart. She is the friend you always want to go out with and have some fun. I really didn’t hear many mean things come out of her mouth this season compared to the older women and she always included everyone into the group. I am so sorry to see that Jeff passed and my heart goes out to his entire family including Gretchen. Your family is who you choose to be your family and who is with you until the end.

  • 257. carrie  |  February 24, 2009 at 4:00 am

    Man, there is a lot of hate out there. All you women know damn well you wish you had the exact life gretchen did. You wish you were as beautiful, vivacious, EDUCATED, positive and had a man that spoiled the hell out of you! Get real people, she’s not a gold digger. There’s a payoff for him too. He had the money, she had the looks, not a new concept out there folks, we’ve been doing that since the dawn of man. Every woman would like financial security whether her own or from her husband, mostly for any potential children. And it’s just as easy to fall in love with a rich man than it is a poor one. It’s really tragic to know there are so many people out there not only judging but taking it a step further and showing it to the world. So much hate and jealousy and rage. I hope you get a handle on it before it comes back and bites you in your ass if it already hasn’t and you better hope no one ever spews such hatred about you. Women need to stop hating on women or we’ll never get the respect we deserve!!

  • 258. PA McDonald  |  February 24, 2009 at 1:03 pm

    The people defending Gretchen are misguided. Nobody cares that he was so much older, but that Gretchen was clearly taking advantage of his ill health. This does not necessarily mean Jeffrey was a great guy–I guess people here tend to forget jerks/losers/bad people in general get cancer too. Why is it when someone gets cancer they’re so “courageous” and “brave” and “wonderful”? That always gets me. All you have to do is look at his children and his priorities to see what kind of man he was–and all you have to do is watch the show to *clearly* see what kind of woman Gretchen is.

  • 259. Kaelin  |  February 24, 2009 at 8:35 pm

    I am so sorry to hear about Jeff passing. I could tell through the show how much you cared for him. I am so sorry for your lose.

    You are my favorite Housewife, you are always so happy and smile.

    Good luck and take care!


  • 260. Anonymous  |  February 24, 2009 at 10:54 pm

    To Jeff’s family: I am very sorry for your loss

  • 261. Lottie  |  February 24, 2009 at 11:25 pm

    My deepest sympathy goes out to Gretchen and her family. I know she and the family has really suffered a great lost.I hate that she opened up to careless women in hopes to find rest.She to me is a trooper and I hope and pray that she will come out of this life experience a wiser and an even more beautiful strong woman.And for the records,Gretchen YOU represent the hottest housewife of all seasons.You have that zest for life that cant be bought,you must be born with it!!!!! Love ya Gretch

  • 262. Michelle  |  February 24, 2009 at 11:29 pm

    I just wanted to write and say if it hadn’t been for Gretchen, I don’t think I would have stayed tuned in for this season of the Housewives. Gretchen just stole the show. She is happy and vivacious and has a terrific, contagious laugh, great spirit and is just a terrific woman. I cried at the closing words from the last episode that Jeff had passed away. I just felt so horrible for Gretchen. I realize she has had some time to heal and I just hope she is doing great, adjusting and I spill out all of my love and support to her! Gretchen… YOU ROCK!!!!

    If you’re not back next season, I’ll find something else to watch! Also, I can’t stand how Tamra and Vickie treated you… especially Tamra. You deserve only peace, love and hope!

  • 263. Diane  |  February 25, 2009 at 12:06 am

    Gretchen Rossi’s TV behavior was outrageously totally inappropriate with a ‘fiance’ at death’s doorstep. Folks, this is not the normal behavior of one who is deeply committed in a relationship.What we witnessed on TV, is quite enough to judge. She disgusts me. Consider this:
    – Signing up to do a Reality series
    – Leaving him in ICU, while she went on vacation – NOT AN AFTERNOON OFF, IT WAS VACATION AWAY
    – leaving him, to go to Las Vegas to party, OUT OF STATE
    – accepts a $65,000 ring that she “DESIGNED” and gets giddy all about it in front of his # KIDS while they are about to lose a dad
    – count ’em 3 KIDS – were they financially all taken care of
    – accepts a frivolous gift like a Harley from him
    – oh and did I say, “party, party, party” ?

  • 264. Natalie  |  February 25, 2009 at 12:27 am

    I feel that Gretchen just get out there and try to keep your head up. Even if he did leave you something use it to make something more of yourself. All the other housewives are ridiculous full of gossip. I hate Vick she makes me sick and her husband should leave her ass she just has him to say she has a husband. Go for him he looks likes a great guy and stay away from the “Nugget” he is lurking trouble.

  • 265. EESHA  |  February 25, 2009 at 12:55 am

    OMG! YOU PEOPLE ARE CRAZIER THAN A SH*T HOUSE RAT! Yes its a show but you all are passing judgment on people you don’t even know. Gretchen girl you are my favorite because your personality is bright and your funny. I think you just needed to punch that Mad Cow Tamara right in the Grill for giving you such grief! Love ya toots!

  • 266. spizzy  |  February 25, 2009 at 2:49 am

    all u ppl defending gretchen should know she had a boyfriend the whole time, he even came up and saw her at bass lake while jeff was in the hospital, gretchen is trash!!!

  • 267. Morgan  |  February 25, 2009 at 3:18 am

    Having heard the story about Gretchens boyfriend, I think she is an absolute low life who used that poor man. You could see it in her eyes that she was lying when called on it.

    I was a “fan” of hers and bought the whole story but when you are caught with your “ex” in the middle of the night, game over honey. She says she didnt involve Tamra?? Then how did the “ex” get Tamara’s cell number, hmmmmm?

    She should be ashamed!!

  • 268. suz  |  February 25, 2009 at 4:54 am

    I’m so sorry for your loss. And honestly, I hate Viki and Tamra. You’re my fav. Hang in there. They’re jealous and insecure and have nothing better to do, and every time I watch the show, they drive me insane!!! You seem like a very good person. I realize I don’t know you, but the comments they make about you, and Lynne make me so mad!! xoxo

  • 269. lyssa  |  February 25, 2009 at 5:13 am

    i don’t see why everyone just looks at her like she is a gold digger? Yes her man did have money, but seriously? i mean is it because of how much older he was than her? Is that why? I am also dating guy that is way older than me.I believe that jeff was 23 years older than her? I am dating some one that is 24 years older than i am. my boyfriend does not have a bunch of money and i still love him dearly. but would you guys still consider me a gold digger? Gretchen was in love with jeff!! not his money!.
    leave her alone.
    im sorry to hear about her loss.
    hope she holding up okay.


  • 270. The Z's  |  February 25, 2009 at 5:54 am


    I felt sorry for you until i saw the show tonight! I think Tamara was right on about you.It was all for show.No one that is engaged and or married would EVER be out partying knowing the one they”love” is dying…Unless, it was an Anna Nicole situation.I feel sorry for Jeff’s kids who had to listen and watch what was being said about the “women” that loved there dad so much…You are disgusting..You couldn’t have looked any more guilty when questions were beingthrown at you regarding Jay…You give women a bad name! Tamara..You are the best! My husband and i just crack up at the things you do and say…Don’t ever leave the show because i will quit watching!

  • 271. ambmarie  |  February 25, 2009 at 5:58 am

    Tamara is the biggest B-t–. I have never meet a women whwo is so jealous. She is an old hag, who can’t stand that gretchen is YOUNG and beauiful. Who cares if she had a fling on the side. She stood by jeff and she loved.
    Tamara, girl…… time you get a body lift. you are nasty

  • 272. Shelby  |  February 25, 2009 at 6:18 am

    My heart goes out to Gretchen and Jeff’s children. So sad that so many are so judgemental… We can only live one day at a time and it seems to me that Gretchen has found a balance few could ever hope to achieve. Wishing Gretchen and Jeff’s children all the best.

  • 273. S. Anderson  |  February 25, 2009 at 6:31 am

    Tamara and Vickie were horrible to Gretchen and Lynn on the season end wrap up show. Tamara is obviously insanely jealous of Gretchen. Tamara looking a llike too many surgeries and botox. Gretchen is sweet, natural and funny. Regardless of her relation ship with Jeff, if it made Jeff hapy that’s all that counts. AND..Gretchen has a wonderful contagous laugh.
    So Vicikie and Tamara get a life. Quit trying to live through others. Jeana….your about the sweetest one on the show. Your sincere, caring and genuine. I enjoy you very much. I hope you find romance soon, any man would be lucky to have you for a partner.

  • 274. DeAnna Davis  |  February 25, 2009 at 6:36 am

    Gretchen you are a special person, we Alaskan gals love you! Tamra and Vicki are back stabbers, and lack the true class and poise you and the rest of the ladies show. I truly think the show would be better without Tamra, because until this year we didn’t have to watch episodes of her jealousy and her jealous based distain for you. The show has enough going on to hold our interests without keeping her and her sincere vengeful antics. Vicki and her husband need a good long break from Tanra, too.

  • 275. Stacie  |  February 25, 2009 at 7:14 am

    You ARE the hottest “housewife”. Stay classy! Sorry for your loss.

  • 276. Cher  |  February 25, 2009 at 8:16 am

    Gretchen–I saw the reunion show tonight and was sickened by the way Tamra and Vicki treated you. They have been jealous of you all along and will obviously do anything to tear you down. You have more class than they ever have had or will have. I know you are smart enough and strong enough to not let them drag you down to their low level! I’m sorry that Jeff didn’t recover so that the two of you could have the life together you hoped to have, but I’m happy that you had the time you did have together. I wish you much happiness in the future–maybe don’t do any more reality TV shows!

  • 277. LOSERS_WATCH_REALITY  |  February 25, 2009 at 11:26 am


    251. Celeste | February 23, 2009 at 9:46 pm
    Gretchen ~ My children and I (16 & 11) are addicted to Real Housewives of the OC and have been since Season One. You are our all time FAVORITE Housewife!


  • 278. ohio fan  |  February 25, 2009 at 12:52 pm

    It stated Gretchen dated Jeff a year before he was diagnosed. So she truely is a lovely person.

  • 279. Cheryl  |  February 25, 2009 at 5:48 pm

    I just wanted to say how sorry I am to Gretchen for her loss my prayers are with you. I watched the “cat fight” last night and from the time you came on the show all I saw out of Tamra and Vicki was jealousy.

  • 280. eric duke  |  February 25, 2009 at 7:45 pm

    Gretchen is clearly a thief! I hope she gets ZERO! I hear she was cheating on her dying husband………What a loser!

  • 281. Diane  |  February 25, 2009 at 10:55 pm


    And for al of you who say, don’t judge, beacuse you dont know her ….well you dont know her either.

    If your mom, or dad, or child, or husband, or significant other, lay dying – I mean DYING – not a broken leg, not a bad cold, DYING in a hospital, would you :

    – signup for a reality TV series
    – leave the state SEVERAL TIMES,
    – party alot
    – go to Las Vegas to party, cus you need a girls weekend
    – spend alot of money on material, frivolous things
    – did I say party alot
    – be giggling, laughing, giggling, laughing,
    – go to Texas to party, cuz you need a girls weekend

    ARE KIDDING ME? This girl, and I mean “girl”, behaved in a’disconnected manner, out of touch with reality, denying responsibilities, narcissistic, self gratifying, hedonistic,wholly inappropriate behavior. ….Hmmm, all these adejectives describe the qualities of a CHILD.

    Almost psychopathic. I found the whole display horrifying. I hope his children never see the reruns of this series. Or I hope they SUE THE CRAP OUT OH HER if she dares benefit of lay claim on any of his estate.

    Did I say Anna Nicole?

  • 282. Jay  |  February 25, 2009 at 10:57 pm

    I watched the RHOC Confess last night and I could not believe the way Tamra treated Gretchen! Tamra has no right – she is just jealous because Gretchen is obviously the hottest housewife in OC. We love you, G! You held yourself with poise and class… can’t say as much for Tamra…

  • 283. Kim Cardwell  |  February 26, 2009 at 2:47 am

    Hi Gretchen, I very sorry about jeff may he rest in peace. I believe that you loved him very much. I don’t understand how people can be so mean. I think you are very hot. Tamra is so envy of you and she needs to calm down her dirty mouth. You can be the best looking but when you let flith come out of your mouth it belittles you. I don’t like tamra, maybe she will not be on the next show. Keep your head up and know that you have alot of fans.. Please be on the next years show!!!!!!!!! Don’t let Tamra win..

  • 284. CAMILLE  |  February 26, 2009 at 6:12 am


  • 285. Paula  |  February 26, 2009 at 4:36 pm

    Gretchen, I must admit, in the very beginning of the show I thought, “Wow, finally a cute blonde woman with REAL boobs!” I watched every episode this season and could see that in the few brief times you and Jeff were shown together, there were REAL feelings between you. It became more and more obvious that the Giant Workaholic WOO-HOO Woman had you in her sites from the get go. And poor, “No I didn’t have them enlarged again, Tamra” follows her new BFF like a lapdog. Jealousy makes people do and say strange things, and especially when they see someone happy and full of life. I know, because I married a wonderful man 17 years my senior, not for his money, he didn’t have much, but for his love. The people in my small town proceeded to try and ruin his fine reputation and mine as well. We fell in love and are still in love despite his wicked ex and her group. We left the area, left the gossip, left the ugliness and couldn’t be happier. In closing , my condolences to you and Jeff’s family. My condolences to Donn, Vicky’s whipping boy, he deserves better and you deserve an apology from those two unhappy, jealous women.

  • 286. deja  |  February 26, 2009 at 7:03 pm

    No matter what everyone thinks of Gretchen, what about Tamara and Vicki? They have got to be the most mean spirited women that I have ever seen. I have to believe they are that way off the show because no one can be that miserable and shut it off with the cameras. I think Tamara is worse then Vicki. She is so ugly and it shows on the outside too. Vicki is just self centered and can’t see past her own nose. Tamara acts like she hates the world and probably herself. You would think those two would watch themselves on the show and be sooooo embarassed for their actions. Tamara is seething insecurity and hatred. Vicki puts other down for the things they do and say but yet she does not own any of her faults. wow, glad I live a middle class life in IA. And to think, Tamara was right here in my town visiting her Dad… I can’t believe she would stoop herself that low to come here.

  • 287. christie  |  February 26, 2009 at 8:13 pm

    I know that it is t.v/ we dont see everything that happens. just what makes t.v. good. but what i did see that i felt was real. is the fact that you are a sweetheart. and no matter what is being said. you seemed to love jeff and took care of him til he died. iam only 3 years older than you and cant imagine dealing with that at our age. hold your head up sweetie. this life will proof amazing for you. iam so sorry for your loss

  • 288. Wank  |  February 27, 2009 at 8:01 pm

    Lol…..don’t hate on Gretchen. She is a very beautiful woman…y’all hating bitches wish you were her. And also, because she leads a good life, if your life sucks don’t hate her for that. Those callin her a golddigger…shut the f**k up…..just because you are broke doesn’t mean other pple are. Am happy for her, at least she is well educated and hot. Do not judge her because you all don’t know her…just being jealous like Tamara. I don’t like Tamara coz she hates Gretchen for her youth and beauty. Leave Gretchen alone! Its her life, live yours….f****d or not!

  • 289. cWm  |  February 28, 2009 at 12:00 am

    I love Gretchen! She is the only positive housewife on the show. She never gossips, speaks, or even thinks badly about anyone. I am sorry to hear about the death of her fiance. They seemed like they really did care about each other; I don’t blame her and can totally understand for her wanting to go out and hang with the girls, there is nothing wrong about that! She did a good job taking care of him, I do not think she was a gold digger.

  • 290. D  |  March 1, 2009 at 3:04 am

    I LOVE Gretchen, she is my favorite housewife. Whatever she and Jeff had is none of our business, why assume the worst? I wish his family and Gretchen all the best.

  • 291. James  |  March 1, 2009 at 8:52 pm

    Some of you folks have wayyyyyyyy to much time on your hands. Thats woman is nothing but a gold digging b****.

  • 292. loo  |  March 1, 2009 at 9:10 pm

    Gretchen I am sorry for your loss. In time you will heal. It amazes me how people judge other people they dont even know. Shame on you all.

  • 293. mai nayem  |  March 2, 2009 at 12:01 am

    I think the OC wives, husbands,bfs, and kids are some of the most pathetic human beings on teevee. They all should be sent to Iraq esp. Jeana’s kids and Vicky’s son and definitely the two girls of the new idjit. Also too, Gretchen and that idjit with the dating show and her idjit bf. They need to get a dose of reel life and stop wondering about drinking and whether the jimmy choo shoes are kewl.

  • 294. Susan  |  March 2, 2009 at 2:11 am

    Gretchen is really nice. She never talks behind anyone’s back or offends anyone. Does anyone know what was Tamra’s job before marrying Simon. She could not have been a housewive since she was a single mother raising Ryan. I heard that she was a stripper, but not sure about that.
    Here is the site everyone can petition so that Gretchen have her own reality show.

  • 295. Melody  |  March 2, 2009 at 4:45 pm

    I have watched every season and just wanted to make a couple of comments.

    Tamara and Vicki – not nice. Really the way you look down your nose at people sad.

    Vicki – you are an impressive woman. You work very hard and have had great success, but you can’t sleep with success. Don is a good man, give the man a break. He is really very charming. as a viewer we can’t help but love him. The grass is not greener.

    Tamra – you are beautiful on the outside, why are you so full of hate and anger. You should really take a look and love yourself enough not to hate others, but find the good in them. Believe it or not, there is good in most people. Even if Gretchen was not who we thought, it didn’t give you permission to be unkind. You could be someone we look up to.

    Gretchen – I watched with great disappointment. It made me realize that if someone seems too good to be true, maybe they are.

    Jeana – I hope you get all you want.

    Lynn- hang in there, don’t let others make you feel bad about yourself. It is wonderful to see the relationship you and your husband have.

  • 296. DWB  |  March 3, 2009 at 2:49 am

    I thought Gretchen playing around with her friends son was gross. She also really came off as a complete gold digger. I do feel very sorry for his children though. He looked like a nice fellow. Too bad.

  • 297. Rosie  |  March 7, 2009 at 4:59 am

    I am amazed at what people think of Gretchen. A very good friend of mine recently lost her husband. He was very sick with Pancreatic Cancer. I could barely get her to leave his side to get some fresh air, let alone go on a weekend party spree! Gretchen shed a camera tear now and then but mostly she was partying and flirting up a storm – not usually the actions of a greifing wife.

    I am also amazed that Bravo TV shows Lynn having a party at her house and not only letting her 18 year old drink but her friends as well. If I was the mother of one of those girls shown drinking under age on TV i would be livid.

    Neither show much moral character.

  • 298. connie  |  March 9, 2009 at 1:11 pm

    First of all, the house was RENTED, the ring? grossly exagerated price tag. Has everyone forgotten about Gretchen’s husband,yes, husband, still lives in Costa Mesa,
    This wiman is an oportunist and a gold -digger.

    Have relatives in Coto de Caza where this took place and have the inside ‘skinny’ on all these women so don’t try to blow smoke up my nose.
    They all married for money or status, phoney lot of them. No real class, not even table manners, ie: the woman teaching etequette, puleese!

    Look how they acted when they went out , loud,boorish and crass.

  • 299. Jake Beitzel  |  March 13, 2009 at 4:51 pm

    Jake Beitzel:

    Hi everyone.. I am Jeff Beitzel’s son, and I just want all of you people that talk crap to know that my dad was an amazing father. I want all of you to know that you are dumb dramaqueens if you can get on a website and talk about someone that you dont even know. He was a great man and loved us all very much. Everyone who says the ring was 100,000 dollars, your stupid. The reason he didnt want Jill to have the car was not because he wanted to buy Gretch stuff and nothing for Jill, Jill just has a very bad driving record and didnt need a new car. My dad did everything in his power to look out for us kids and its a disgrace to anyone who talks crap cause you just sound stupid and ignorant. Mind your own business, take care of your family, live your lives. Everyone who sits on here and judges people they dont know is just going against what were here for. There is only one judgement that matters and thats the good Lords’ when we pass. God did not put us here to put each other down and he especially didnt put us here to go on stupid websites and blog about things we have no clue about. My Dad loved Gretchen, Gretchen loved my Dad. Maybe it wasnt a perfect relationship but who cares, my dads gone and none of it matters anymore. Please stop talking bad about my dad when most of you probably dont even know how to spell out last name right.

    God Bless,
    -Jake Beitzel

  • 300. Melissa  |  March 14, 2009 at 6:05 pm

    I love the setup of your website. What company did you use? I would like to use a company for mine http://www.WivesWhoHateSports.com.

  • 301. klamb1  |  March 14, 2009 at 7:38 pm

    Hi Melissa, I selected a template from the wordpress website and used their widgets for the different features. You can sign up with wordpress for free (which is what I did) and they provide everything that you need for a blog. I hope that this helps! Good luck to you!

  • 302. FUGoLdDigr  |  March 19, 2009 at 6:50 pm

    http://www.wwtdd.com/index.phtml take a look at these pictures of you beloved gretchen

  • 303. lise  |  March 20, 2009 at 1:14 am

    It is very sad when anyones family member dies from cancer it is not something anyone should wish on anyone.
    This man he enjoyed his time with his girlfriend and his children. His kids all seemed like really good kids who were well taken care of by both of their parents.
    It is a very sad time for this family still I am sure lets all think about this being one of our relatives then ask how would we feel if our family was gossiped about in such a manner. Regardless of whether they were on a tv show.

  • 304. Lauren  |  March 20, 2009 at 3:37 pm

    God bless you and Jeff, Gretchen. Boo hoo to all the Haters, especially the horrific Vicki and Tamara. I honestly can’t think of anything bad enough to call them.

  • 305. Stephanie  |  March 21, 2009 at 6:31 pm

    My condolences to you with regards to your father. He loved all of his children very much and it showed on the show. I lost my father a year ago and I can understand how you feel. If everyone put as much effort in spouting off about things they have no clue about and doing kind things for others ie.. pay it forward etc… This world would be a better place. I can only say that your dad made his decisions and it was obvious that he loved Gretchen and you kids otherwise he wouldn’t of done the things he did. I am sure that you are a lot like your dad which means you will go far in life and be very successful. My heart and love goes out to you, Gretchen and your sisters.


  • 306. Grandma Linda  |  March 24, 2009 at 12:42 am

    She not a good fit for the show. There doesn’t seem to be any depth to her .. she seems to be waiting for the next opportunity to show-off. And she doesn’t do that very well. As for the money she was hoping to get from Jeff .. we may never know and don’t really need to. She can always get a job and support herself.

  • 307. J R  |  March 31, 2009 at 3:46 am

    I believe that all of the people on this site who’ve expressed such disdain for Gretchen really should get a life. None of us know the relationship between her and Jeff and his family because we weren’t living it. Move on with your lives and leave the woman alone. As for the show, I hope she returns for another season!!! It’s television people, let it go!!!

  • 308. Janeane  |  April 12, 2009 at 1:20 am

    Absloutely 100% agree with the last comment. Gretchen was so real, and vibrant. And Lynne was super sweet as well. As for any of us judging, I refuse to judge anyone who cares for someone dying!!

  • 309. Raye Lynn  |  April 13, 2009 at 2:13 pm

    Dear Gretchen sorry to hear about Jeff…. i alwaysliked the two of you, God Bless! He is now your Guardian Angel!

  • 310. shazjarben  |  April 14, 2009 at 1:16 pm

    I’m just watching the new series now.
    I feel sorry for Gretchen I just watched the episode where Tamara and Vicky were really bitchy. I wished i had Gretchens beauty! I may not have money and a high paid job but I have 2 wonderful boys and a fulfilling job. I would love to see a reality show that rich housewives trade lives with families that are not so privilaged.It may open there eyes up and they may be less materialistic. But I love watching real housewives because my live is so different. God bless you Gretchen and Jeff’s family.

  • 311. Cali gal  |  April 14, 2009 at 9:54 pm

    I agree with the previous comment. Enough already. Gretchen will continue to be famous, despite Tamra’s desperate attempt to slander her. Trampra and Icky Vicky need to get a reality check on moral decency. They should be jealous of Gretchen, as she has EVERYTHING they don’t!!!!

  • 312. Deb  |  April 20, 2009 at 7:15 pm

    They are all a bunch of morons that come from the OC
    its all about the bling $$ ching ching..
    Gold diggers and fake fake people. Ugh they all make me sick

  • 313. John  |  April 20, 2009 at 9:14 pm

    Good Lord people, do you think any of these women aren’t gold diggers? Their whole lives revolve around money, and tacky-ass displays of wealth! Gretchen might be the most obivous, but anyone willing to whore themselves out on reality TV and act like trash like all of these people do, is not a class act. Is anyone real? Does anyone have depth? NO.

  • 314. nadz  |  April 24, 2009 at 8:22 am

    Gotta say that VICKI is the rudest and most hypocritical housewife. She touts how she’s a Christian, and her values and then during another episode complains when Gretchen was talking about her fiancee and his health concerns prior to his passing. I don’t care who you are, no human deserves that kind of disrespect when he/she is dealing with leukemia. Vicki disgusts me and Gretchen deserves at least a little bit of respect…taking care of someone during their last few days/months of life is very difficult.

  • 315. jessica  |  May 1, 2009 at 5:04 am

    Go to http://www.thedir ty.com and check out the pictures of Gretchen. Her partying, kissing other guys, making out with girls.. all while being with Jeff – wearing her engagment ring. She was busted FULLY for using jeff. She even got a tattoo of another guys name while being with Jeff. Sickening!

  • 316. jessica  |  May 1, 2009 at 5:04 am


  • 317. Anonymous  |  May 2, 2009 at 5:24 pm

    So so sorry for your loss!! You are so beautiful stay strong! xoxo

  • 318. Jill  |  May 5, 2009 at 10:20 pm

    Wonder if he left her a great big shovel , so she can do some more “GOLD DiGGING’

  • 319. Sam  |  May 5, 2009 at 10:29 pm

    They’re all bottled blonds with false t&ts and money mad. Oh and Vickis case piggy nosed and ugly

  • 320. Darrell  |  May 15, 2009 at 1:15 am

    Gretchen is so hot I know all these borads want a stable life and the guys who don’t have money to provide hate on them for it but man when I look at her compared to ugly others who flatter themselves can you say the hottest blond in the world right now she’s freaking gorgeous

  • 321. Katie  |  May 27, 2009 at 4:12 am

    Gretchen, you and the kids have my deepest sympathy. Imust have been so hard for.
    You are so wonderful, and what you did for him was just such an inspiration. you are so strong and good hearted.
    I ended up crying at the last episode which has just finished over here in Australia, i can’t imagine what you are going through but im a total stranger and couldn’t believe it.
    all the best.

  • 322. james  |  May 31, 2009 at 12:28 am

    she is already being photographed making out with slade from the previous season as in slade and jo. she looks REAL sad on popeater.com.

  • 323. elizabeth  |  June 14, 2009 at 5:20 pm

    I have only recently started watching the show.
    gretchen you are a beautiful young smart women. Jeff picked you for obvious reasons. Four years is a long time to be with someone and not already be married. That being said, I do admire your candidcy towards your lives together. To judge you is harsh but everyone has an opinion. I am at home on a Sunday morning thinking about cancer and writing to you. You see my fiance and the man I live with has stage four colon cancer. My world has crumbled around me and I know live in another demension. Absolutely nothing is the same. Sowhatever got you through your challenge is ok.

  • 324. Teri  |  August 22, 2009 at 4:34 am

    I hope Gretchen is doing well. I find her to be a very sweet lady and was wonderful and kind to her finance. Trying to deal with that situation has got to be confusing and tough.
    No one knows how they will be until it happens to them.
    I hope she is okay.

  • 325. glen  |  September 4, 2009 at 5:11 am

    Gretchen, don’t listen to the ignorent comments made by jelous, shallow minnded people, your a beautiful person, i hope you find comfort in your love for Jeff at this difficult time.

  • 326. Tina  |  September 8, 2009 at 6:44 pm

    My deepest condolensces on the passing of your fiance.The little we saw him on the show,we knew he was a special and dear person to you.

    Surround yourself with people who love you and who are true to your friendship.Keep your head held high cuz there are alot of “us” who are on your side…………..

  • 327. Darlene  |  September 23, 2009 at 8:34 pm

    I am Gretchen’s best friend and I know first hand that her love for him was genuine. It is rude of all those who would make such inconsiderate comments regarding those who you do not know. Thank you all for the prayers and thoughts. Gretchen appreciates the support and loves you all!

  • 328. Tammy Buote  |  October 1, 2009 at 11:22 pm

    I would like to express my sympathys to Gretchen and Jeff’s children on their recent loss. I too have lost my father at a young age, due to cancer. T

  • 329. Lady Love  |  November 6, 2009 at 5:00 am

    Keep your head up dont let people bring you down fly above all the haters

  • 330. Melissa  |  November 8, 2009 at 4:49 am

    my condolences (sp?) to you and your family…can’t imagine what you’re going through

  • 331. Joel  |  November 9, 2009 at 10:37 pm

    The show is just that a show for entertainment. I do feel for anyone that has suffered a loss of a loved one. I am certain that Gretchen and Jeff’s 4 children are all finding their way in dealing with his loss. Even if you know that someone has a terminal illness you still are not likely to be ready for the time to come that they must go. Again realize that a pert of this is for entertainment and a part of this is real life that we must show some level of decorum for. I wish Gretchen and the Children what ever serenity and peace that they can find that Jeff is no longer in pain and is now
    watching over them from a better place.

  • 332. Teresa  |  November 10, 2009 at 8:34 pm

    To those who like to judge without basis are like “Tamara”. Tamara is the most unsophisticated human that is on tv. She is that person that cannot say anything nice and is threatened by pretty things. I can see why Simon is falling out of love.

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